/u/purplecrunchy on Am I on the Ace Spectrum?

Hello, you touched lots of topics in your post, so I don't really know which I should respond to, or in what order, but, regarding your epiphany, and this is only my personal point of view of course there's no right or wrong, but I feel like :

-people do have sex and do want to have sex because it's fun? Maybe I just don't understand the concept of sex but think about casual hookups for example, it's seems to me that it's just for fun. I also think people can have sex to bond with a partner, like it's a part of creating an intimate relationship with someone (for some people at least, not everyone) but I don't know if there's an intrinsic desire to have a sexual relationship with someone (at least it's not just that, it's part of something bigger), I feel it's more like what you said in the beginning, having a romantic relionship with someone and sex is just a part of it (for allosexuals at least I guess). I've myself been questioning my sexual orientation so maybe I just don't know what I'm talking about, what that's what I think about it

-and then on the fact that you don't understand why people masturbate to porn. It's just because it arouses them and it's almost "mechanical" I would say. Like for me I don't like doing both simultaneously, but sometimes before I masturbate I'll watch porn to get excited, and then I'll masturbate. And it has nothing to do with a desire to be sexual with someone else.

You shouldn't worry about not feeling the same things as other people around you. For one, I'm certain there exist other people who feel the same as you do. And then of course, we are all different and I totally relate to not getting what people are talking about, but like, don't beat yourself up for it it's just how it is and for me, I just think that when I don't understand someone else, it's because our brains don't work the same way and well that's just how it is

March 08, 2023 at 11:06PM