Should I continuing seeing this guy?

This guy and I have been on dates 3 times. We talked about what we both wanted out of this. I wanted a relationship, and he wanted to see where this goes. Told me that he sees me as a potential partner in a relationship on the second date. Then on the third date he says sadly that he dont think we’re compatible bc I didn’t do a lot of hobbies of his, which I say I was willing to try with him even though I’ve never done them. He also say that relationships are not something he feels like just jumping in, and that it takes time for him.

I feel like such a small incompatibility I am willing to compromise for as I don’t think anything will be 100% perfect in a relationship and it takes compromise from both sides for a relationship to last and work. But for him to say that makes me wonder if I’m not good enough for him to willing to compromise for, thus making me just casual fun for him.

On the other hand, I feel like I am also thinking too much about this, as he is super sweet and romantic. He tells me frequently that he likes me and we both contribute equally to planning dates and meeting up, as well as for paying for food and such. He is also very considerate of my likes and dislikes, and even though we’re not in a relationship, for example, the last date he asked me and let me know that he will try not to drink too much when hanging out with friends since he knows I don’t drink or like alcohol.

It’s just that his comment made me insecure about the potential of where this is going, I would hate to go on so many dates and waste time for someone for them to fall out and just be friends, but it looks like for him it does take time(which is his love language) and that he is somewhat serious with me. I know some people aren’t official until months in, so I feel like I am too rushy and hopeful for someone I’ve been seeing for only 2 weeks. I think I just need more outside perspectives on this.

Submitted March 11, 2023 at 01:10AM

This guy and I have been on dates 3 times. We talked about what we both wanted out of this. I wanted a relationship, and he wanted to see where this goes. Told me that he sees me as a potential partner in a relationship on the second date. Then on the third date he says sadly that he dont think we’re compatible bc I didn’t do a lot of hobbies of his, which I say I was willing to try with him even though I’ve never done them. He also say that relationships are not something he feels like just jumping in, and that it takes time for him.I feel like such a small incompatibility I am willing to compromise for as I don’t think anything will be 100% perfect in a relationship and it takes compromise from both sides for a relationship to last and work. But for him to say that makes me wonder if I’m not good enough for him to willing to compromise for, thus making me just casual fun for him.On the other hand, I feel like I am also thinking too much about this, as he is super sweet and romantic. He tells me frequently that he likes me and we both contribute equally to planning dates and meeting up, as well as for paying for food and such. He is also very considerate of my likes and dislikes, and even though we’re not in a relationship, for example, the last date he asked me and let me know that he will try not to drink too much when hanging out with friends since he knows I don’t drink or like alcohol.It’s just that his comment made me insecure about the potential of where this is going, I would hate to go on so many dates and waste time for someone for them to fall out and just be friends, but it looks like for him it does take time(which is his love language) and that he is somewhat serious with me. I know some people aren’t official until months in, so I feel like I am too rushy and hopeful for someone I’ve been seeing for only 2 weeks. I think I just need more outside perspectives on this.