Relationship slowed down after several dates, what kind of flirty message to check the status without being needy?

Had 6 dates with a woman over two weeks. It moved really fast, 5 of the dates were excellent and really romantic. 3rd, 4th, 5th dates ended up at her place. During all of that, she was the one pursuing me basically except that I scheduled dates quickly after she suggested them. However 6th date was awkward day date with only a half kiss and other awkward moments, real robotic behavior by me, all my fault due to an extraneous thing.

We then set up a date but I had to cancel, we then had a phone call where I explained why, she was friendly and made a couple of dirty jokes, generic ones not about me but open on the topic, but since that 6th date there has been no flirting.

Over two and a half weeks since then we've texted off and on, platonically and separated by days, I get fast replies still and she is pretty detailed about what she's doing and why she's busy, and I also said I was busy. Feels like it's basically faded off but not sure. It's almost as likely that she feels friendzoned by me. But more likely I am partially friendzoned by her, hard to tell though.

Thinking of sending a flirty, possibly polarizing but clear message like 'I'm thinking of those kisses and good times we had last month'. If she responds like it's flirty, that's a clear way to ask her out again. But if that's out of the blue the message might seem needy. That kind of a message could either keep it going or end it. However at this point I've temporarily lost most attraction to other women and thinking about all this too much, I should probably just create a decision point like that.

Please criticize and shit talk so I get some perspective.

Submitted March 06, 2023 at 12:11AM

Had 6 dates with a woman over two weeks. It moved really fast, 5 of the dates were excellent and really romantic. 3rd, 4th, 5th dates ended up at her place. During all of that, she was the one pursuing me basically except that I scheduled dates quickly after she suggested them. However 6th date was awkward day date with only a half kiss and other awkward moments, real robotic behavior by me, all my fault due to an extraneous thing.We then set up a date but I had to cancel, we then had a phone call where I explained why, she was friendly and made a couple of dirty jokes, generic ones not about me but open on the topic, but since that 6th date there has been no flirting.Over two and a half weeks since then we've texted off and on, platonically and separated by days, I get fast replies still and she is pretty detailed about what she's doing and why she's busy, and I also said I was busy. Feels like it's basically faded off but not sure. It's almost as likely that she feels friendzoned by me. But more likely I am partially friendzoned by her, hard to tell though.Thinking of sending a flirty, possibly polarizing but clear message like 'I'm thinking of those kisses and good times we had last month'. If she responds like it's flirty, that's a clear way to ask her out again. But if that's out of the blue the message might seem needy. That kind of a message could either keep it going or end it. However at this point I've temporarily lost most attraction to other women and thinking about all this too much, I should probably just create a decision point like that.Please criticize and shit talk so I get some perspective.