I’m between a rock and a hard place with my friends and me ex girlfriend

Okay so for context I’m 18 year old guy and my two best friends are a lesbian couple and my ex girlfriend is friends with them. I dated my ex-girlfriend twice for a month and a half each time with a month in between. After the second time we broke up she told people I sexually assaulted her even though I didn’t and then later she admitted to me she was lying to being people on her side because she treated me like expendable garbage but she has not admitted this to anyone else. Right after we broke up the second time she was touched me inappropriately repeatedly but it had since died down (we’ve been broken up for 2 months). In the past week she has touched me inappropriately a few times again including on my penis, butt, and chest even though I’ve told her to stop. One of my friends doesn’t care because she’s best friends with my ex and doesn’t want to acknowledge that her friend is in the wrong and making me uncomfortable. My other friend who is dating the other friend just got back from a psych ward and I don’t feel right putting any sort of my life stress onto her. The friend who I told about how my ex was being inappropriate with me told me how it’s stressing her out that I’m not being friends with her friend so I was forced to unblock my ex. Later my ex caught me flirting with a girl who I like a little bit and she asked me about it and because I don’t want to be yelled at by my friends and because I don’t want the sexual assault accusations to come back I talked to her about it. Since she has been calling me nearly nightly to call me and she changes in front of me which makes me more uncomfortable because I really do with all my heart want to be done with her because she treated me terrible and I don’t do hookups. She also tells me how much she want to hoe around. But it gets worse because she’s currently dating a friend of my friend group who all my friends love and she’s sleeping with him. I want to stop taking to her but I don’t want to lose my friends and I don’t want to be accused of a sexual assault I didn’t commit again. So at this point I’m stuck being sexually harassed everyday by my ex because I don’t want to lose or stress out my friends and i also don’t want to hurt the guy she’s dating because while I’ve never gotten along with him I don’t want to break him.



Submitted March 16, 2023 at 02:05AM

Okay so for context I’m 18 year old guy and my two best friends are a lesbian couple and my ex girlfriend is friends with them. I dated my ex-girlfriend twice for a month and a half each time with a month in between. After the second time we broke up she told people I sexually assaulted her even though I didn’t and then later she admitted to me she was lying to being people on her side because she treated me like expendable garbage but she has not admitted this to anyone else. Right after we broke up the second time she was touched me inappropriately repeatedly but it had since died down (we’ve been broken up for 2 months). In the past week she has touched me inappropriately a few times again including on my penis, butt, and chest even though I’ve told her to stop. One of my friends doesn’t care because she’s best friends with my ex and doesn’t want to acknowledge that her friend is in the wrong and making me uncomfortable. My other friend who is dating the other friend just got back from a psych ward and I don’t feel right putting any sort of my life stress onto her. The friend who I told about how my ex was being inappropriate with me told me how it’s stressing her out that I’m not being friends with her friend so I was forced to unblock my ex. Later my ex caught me flirting with a girl who I like a little bit and she asked me about it and because I don’t want to be yelled at by my friends and because I don’t want the sexual assault accusations to come back I talked to her about it. Since she has been calling me nearly nightly to call me and she changes in front of me which makes me more uncomfortable because I really do with all my heart want to be done with her because she treated me terrible and I don’t do hookups. She also tells me how much she want to hoe around. But it gets worse because she’s currently dating a friend of my friend group who all my friends love and she’s sleeping with him. I want to stop taking to her but I don’t want to lose my friends and I don’t want to be accused of a sexual assault I didn’t commit again. So at this point I’m stuck being sexually harassed everyday by my ex because I don’t want to lose or stress out my friends and i also don’t want to hurt the guy she’s dating because while I’ve never gotten along with him I don’t want to break him.
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