She doesn't want to talk to me anymore

I(22m, introvert, never had a gf) met this girl(20f) at work and after talking couple of times and finding out we have a lot in common, I started having feelings for her, so I asked her on a date and she agreed.

We went out twice a week and always somewhere new and it was nice for 2 months, also texted each other every other day . Even if we haven't had a kiss for that 2 months, I asked her if our relationship with this dates is going in the direction of "more than friends", and she said she wanted to ask me the same and said that she is glad were on a same page. I was happy I was able to do something in my dating life, but everything turned upside down.

Went couple of times out after that and I wanted to arrange another date, but she said she had some projects for uni before exams and didn't have time. I was ok with that and I told her to call me when she had time because I didn't want to bother her at that time. Still continued to text her to keep connection, but after a week she starts ghosting me after I asked her how was her day. 2 days after I've sent her the text she sends me "THE TEXT". She said she's sorry "if it looked like" she was leading me on said she doesn't have time for relationship and wants to stay friends. I didn't have impression I've done something wrong and I felt I was being led for sure because she said she wanted to be "more than friends", which I didn't expect from her. I've said some things in the moment of weakness that I'm not proud of (I confronted her on being led and because I had feelings for her I can't stay just friends with her(didn't cuss or belittle her)).After ghosting me again and me checking every 30 mins if she saw the message, I blocked her on IG(used to communicate). After thinking about the whole situation, I came to conclusion that I didn't want our relationship to end on this (friendly or romantic). I unblocked her 4 days after, just to see she blocked me everywhere. Found out she didn't block me on Whatsapp texted her that I was sorry for things I said and apologize if I hurt her, also wanted to talk to her about the whole situation because I didn't understand where this came from. She tell's me that it's best for us not to talk anymore and that she wasn't hurt about my action, then proceeds to block me on Whatsapp before I could answer her.

I really have no clue why would she say she wants to be "more than friends", then after two weeks, changes her mind. I don't know if she'll contact me ever again and I don't know how to feel, I'm sad we don't talk anymore. This is my first dating relationship and I understand I can't force someone to love me. I'm not mad she rejected me as much as I'm mad for her leading me on and ghosting.

So I'm not sure: Did I dodge a bullet or did I mess things up?

What could have I done differently for better results?



Submitted February 11, 2023 at 12:13AM

I(22m, introvert, never had a gf) met this girl(20f) at work and after talking couple of times and finding out we have a lot in common, I started having feelings for her, so I asked her on a date and she agreed.We went out twice a week and always somewhere new and it was nice for 2 months, also texted each other every other day . Even if we haven't had a kiss for that 2 months, I asked her if our relationship with this dates is going in the direction of "more than friends", and she said she wanted to ask me the same and said that she is glad were on a same page. I was happy I was able to do something in my dating life, but everything turned upside down.Went couple of times out after that and I wanted to arrange another date, but she said she had some projects for uni before exams and didn't have time. I was ok with that and I told her to call me when she had time because I didn't want to bother her at that time. Still continued to text her to keep connection, but after a week she starts ghosting me after I asked her how was her day. 2 days after I've sent her the text she sends me "THE TEXT". She said she's sorry "if it looked like" she was leading me on said she doesn't have time for relationship and wants to stay friends. I didn't have impression I've done something wrong and I felt I was being led for sure because she said she wanted to be "more than friends", which I didn't expect from her. I've said some things in the moment of weakness that I'm not proud of (I confronted her on being led and because I had feelings for her I can't stay just friends with her(didn't cuss or belittle her)).After ghosting me again and me checking every 30 mins if she saw the message, I blocked her on IG(used to communicate). After thinking about the whole situation, I came to conclusion that I didn't want our relationship to end on this (friendly or romantic). I unblocked her 4 days after, just to see she blocked me everywhere. Found out she didn't block me on Whatsapp texted her that I was sorry for things I said and apologize if I hurt her, also wanted to talk to her about the whole situation because I didn't understand where this came from. She tell's me that it's best for us not to talk anymore and that she wasn't hurt about my action, then proceeds to block me on Whatsapp before I could answer her.I really have no clue why would she say she wants to be "more than friends", then after two weeks, changes her mind. I don't know if she'll contact me ever again and I don't know how to feel, I'm sad we don't talk anymore. This is my first dating relationship and I understand I can't force someone to love me. I'm not mad she rejected me as much as I'm mad for her leading me on and ghosting.So I'm not sure: Did I dodge a bullet or did I mess things up?What could have I done differently for better results?
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