My (19M) friend (19F) who I'm interested in suddenly changed he behaviour towards me

I (19M) have been at uni since late September this year. When I got there, me and one of my 10 housemates (19F), call her M, seemed to hit it off nicely. We would play video games in the kitchen, sometimes just us late at night. We would lie side by side on the couch and do personality quizzes at the same time for fun (I'm an INFP, she's INTP, if that means anything). A month or so in she invited me to her room (not instigated by me) to watch her play games. Within the first few weeks she also talked to me a bit about how she finds in-person interaction difficult and how she is often emotionally detached from even people she cares about.

About 2 weeks in we started watching Netflix on her laptop in her room (most nights a week). We'd watch for about an hour to three hours, depending how late it was. By this point I had realised I was interested in her romantically, and would (probably not as subtly as I thought) adjust myself so that our heads were close together. One time she adjusted herself, and there was considerable bodily contact, although it didn't last long.

Not long into our Netflix watches, M mentioned that she was bad with scary stuff, but (I think) the same night, told me on SC that we should watch a proper horror film sometime. We've since watched 3, with the most recent one being about a month and a half ago.

What struck me the most however, was that most nights after watching Netflix, mere minutes after I went back to my room, she would SC me, and we would sometimes talk for up to another hour. Although I instigated all our Netflix watches (except for one or two), she instigated the vast majority of our conversations throughout the day or at night, despite her replies being slower than mine. That is, until about a month ago.

About 2 to 3 weeks before the Christmas holidays, she stopped being interested in watching Netflix. I saw less of her in person. She stopped initiating conversations on SC, and would sometimes leave me on opened. She told me she didn't feel like watching stuff at that time. About 10 days later I asked if she still wanted to watch a film we'd previously agreed to watch. She said no, because she doesn't feel like it atm and she's trying to fix her sleep schedule. When I asked, she said we probably wouldn't be watching stuff anymore. During the last week before we left for Christmas (around a month ago) she would mention that she can't wait to go home, despite telling me that she didn't really miss her people after a few weeks at uni. Cut to now, about a month later. I mentioned that we seemed to be drifting and suggested we do more stuff together in 2023. She told me that recently she's been sick of people and hopes she'll feel differently when we get back to uni.

So, can anyone give me any insights into her shift in behaviour and how I should approach the situation? I'm pretty sure she knows I like her (and probably figured it out in the first month) but I haven't made any bold moves.

Some noteworthy things to know:

She is kind with her actions towards others but is often blunt with her words

She is (outwardly at least) unafraid of honesty

During our icebreaker convos in September, when, said she was not a virgin, something we all didn't expect

Submitted January 01, 2023 at 12:13AM

I (19M) have been at uni since late September this year. When I got there, me and one of my 10 housemates (19F), call her M, seemed to hit it off nicely. We would play video games in the kitchen, sometimes just us late at night. We would lie side by side on the couch and do personality quizzes at the same time for fun (I'm an INFP, she's INTP, if that means anything). A month or so in she invited me to her room (not instigated by me) to watch her play games. Within the first few weeks she also talked to me a bit about how she finds in-person interaction difficult and how she is often emotionally detached from even people she cares about.About 2 weeks in we started watching Netflix on her laptop in her room (most nights a week). We'd watch for about an hour to three hours, depending how late it was. By this point I had realised I was interested in her romantically, and would (probably not as subtly as I thought) adjust myself so that our heads were close together. One time she adjusted herself, and there was considerable bodily contact, although it didn't last long.Not long into our Netflix watches, M mentioned that she was bad with scary stuff, but (I think) the same night, told me on SC that we should watch a proper horror film sometime. We've since watched 3, with the most recent one being about a month and a half ago.What struck me the most however, was that most nights after watching Netflix, mere minutes after I went back to my room, she would SC me, and we would sometimes talk for up to another hour. Although I instigated all our Netflix watches (except for one or two), she instigated the vast majority of our conversations throughout the day or at night, despite her replies being slower than mine. That is, until about a month ago.About 2 to 3 weeks before the Christmas holidays, she stopped being interested in watching Netflix. I saw less of her in person. She stopped initiating conversations on SC, and would sometimes leave me on opened. She told me she didn't feel like watching stuff at that time. About 10 days later I asked if she still wanted to watch a film we'd previously agreed to watch. She said no, because she doesn't feel like it atm and she's trying to fix her sleep schedule. When I asked, she said we probably wouldn't be watching stuff anymore. During the last week before we left for Christmas (around a month ago) she would mention that she can't wait to go home, despite telling me that she didn't really miss her people after a few weeks at uni. Cut to now, about a month later. I mentioned that we seemed to be drifting and suggested we do more stuff together in 2023. She told me that recently she's been sick of people and hopes she'll feel differently when we get back to uni.So, can anyone give me any insights into her shift in behaviour and how I should approach the situation? I'm pretty sure she knows I like her (and probably figured it out in the first month) but I haven't made any bold moves.Some noteworthy things to know:She is kind with her actions towards others but is often blunt with her wordsShe is (outwardly at least) unafraid of honestyDuring our icebreaker convos in September, when, said she was not a virgin, something we all didn't expect