What would you do if your date likes gaming and you don’t like it?

I just got to know a guy who’s really cute and already started to like me after a short time. I also felt that I kinda like him and I even already could imagine a relationship with him. I have to say that I kinda have fear of relationship, so I had more FWB in the past. And I also need a longer time and a stronger will to get into a relationship bc I always kinda try to find things about my date in the beginning which make me feel like a relationship wouldn’t work and finally lead to struggles and doubts about continuing dating.

I‘m not that sure, but I guess this time it’s a bit different. I don’t have anything against gamers (some of my friends are also gaming and ofc it’s totally fine for me). But somehow it’s a kinda strong turn off for me when the guy games (rather then spend time with me) and I‘m always afraid that he really would prefer it a lot over me and I would feel bad about this. The guy I meet now is a really nice and cute guy and I really felt so comfortable with him, also without really having doubts in the beginning. Apart from that he always kinda drinks to much at house parties what I don’t really like but I think I could probably accept, I kinda didn’t like the fact that he likes gaming when he told me about it ( I guess since my ex I‘m afraid that he would prefer it over spending time with me when I‘m at this place). The other guys I met actually didn’t really like gaming too. Actually we‘re on our fifth date now. He cancelled gaming with his friends on the third date. Today we had a nice time after I came to his place spontaneously. He also talked with his friends about gaming together before we decided to meet. Now he’s gaming for two hours while I‘m sleepy. I mean he also asks me from time to time if I‘m alright or if I‘m sleepy and probably feels also a bit bad about this. But for me I already have a bad feeling that I could feel more bad about him gaming when we meet in the future. For me it’s alright if he plays games when he’s without me btw. Do I overreact?



Submitted November 06, 2022 at 12:14AM

I just got to know a guy who’s really cute and already started to like me after a short time. I also felt that I kinda like him and I even already could imagine a relationship with him. I have to say that I kinda have fear of relationship, so I had more FWB in the past. And I also need a longer time and a stronger will to get into a relationship bc I always kinda try to find things about my date in the beginning which make me feel like a relationship wouldn’t work and finally lead to struggles and doubts about continuing dating.I‘m not that sure, but I guess this time it’s a bit different. I don’t have anything against gamers (some of my friends are also gaming and ofc it’s totally fine for me). But somehow it’s a kinda strong turn off for me when the guy games (rather then spend time with me) and I‘m always afraid that he really would prefer it a lot over me and I would feel bad about this. The guy I meet now is a really nice and cute guy and I really felt so comfortable with him, also without really having doubts in the beginning. Apart from that he always kinda drinks to much at house parties what I don’t really like but I think I could probably accept, I kinda didn’t like the fact that he likes gaming when he told me about it ( I guess since my ex I‘m afraid that he would prefer it over spending time with me when I‘m at this place). The other guys I met actually didn’t really like gaming too. Actually we‘re on our fifth date now. He cancelled gaming with his friends on the third date. Today we had a nice time after I came to his place spontaneously. He also talked with his friends about gaming together before we decided to meet. Now he’s gaming for two hours while I‘m sleepy. I mean he also asks me from time to time if I‘m alright or if I‘m sleepy and probably feels also a bit bad about this. But for me I already have a bad feeling that I could feel more bad about him gaming when we meet in the future. For me it’s alright if he plays games when he’s without me btw. Do I overreact?
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