What to do?

Tonight I was talking to a long time pen pal, let’s call him G, and I was talking to him about the fact that we have been talking online for approximately a year and a half and we have never met in person.

G says that he has a lot of health problems, he’s 60 and he went through lots of trauma with the house flooding and him losing his home, thieves stole his possessions and threatened him, so he keeps to himself, he has the shingles, his heart is very weak and he had heart failure so he had to go to rehab to get it sorted, and that his friend had a stroke and he has to take care of him.

At the start, we were friendly and he messaged me everyday, telling me that I’m handsome, I have great skin, then we would video call on a lot of nights and do masturbating while he rubs his stomach and he talks about his skin being like cashmere, and talking about my skin being very soft and shiny. We talked about meeting each other and he seemed very eager, then I got into a relationship with another person, DH, because I couldn’t wait on him to finish rehab indefinitely. DH told me that I was waiting very long for him.

During the relationship, G revealed that he got out of rehab and that he found a partner in his gardener (let’s call him D), only to later reveal that they were “just friends” (READ friends with benefits). G says that he’s very close to D and that they’re very good friends and they massage each other. G says he likes D and that he has a very nice penis although he’s not ready to be in a relationship with him or anyone because of his health problems. D is now back in his home country because his father is very I’ll, so he’s not seeing G, and it’s not known whether he’ll come back.

I broke up with my partner (call him DH) because I saw that I was getting jealous and I didn’t want to hold onto a relationship with a person while secretly wishing to be with another person. It was very sad for both of us, and I do miss DH.

DH has blocked me and says that he doesn’t want to talk to me for 6 months because he wants to heal and he is heartbroken, and talking to me hurts him. G was asking about where DH is and whether I’ve gotten into contact with him.

I was saying that I feel like G lead me on and couldn’t admit that he wasn’t interested the whole time, and he insists that he’s simply not ready to be in a relationship with anyone because of his health problems.

TL:DR what do I do from this point? Am I being too selfish and demanding because he does genuinely have health problems? Do I wait for him to be ready and healthy again? He is very kind and friendly to me, he talks to me almost everyday sometimes and he’s always helpful and treats me very well. We have formed a very close virtual friendship and it does frustrate me because I do want to visit him and get to know him more.

Submitted September 26, 2022 at 01:16AM

Tonight I was talking to a long time pen pal, let’s call him G, and I was talking to him about the fact that we have been talking online for approximately a year and a half and we have never met in person.G says that he has a lot of health problems, he’s 60 and he went through lots of trauma with the house flooding and him losing his home, thieves stole his possessions and threatened him, so he keeps to himself, he has the shingles, his heart is very weak and he had heart failure so he had to go to rehab to get it sorted, and that his friend had a stroke and he has to take care of him.At the start, we were friendly and he messaged me everyday, telling me that I’m handsome, I have great skin, then we would video call on a lot of nights and do masturbating while he rubs his stomach and he talks about his skin being like cashmere, and talking about my skin being very soft and shiny. We talked about meeting each other and he seemed very eager, then I got into a relationship with another person, DH, because I couldn’t wait on him to finish rehab indefinitely. DH told me that I was waiting very long for him.During the relationship, G revealed that he got out of rehab and that he found a partner in his gardener (let’s call him D), only to later reveal that they were “just friends” (READ friends with benefits). G says that he’s very close to D and that they’re very good friends and they massage each other. G says he likes D and that he has a very nice penis although he’s not ready to be in a relationship with him or anyone because of his health problems. D is now back in his home country because his father is very I’ll, so he’s not seeing G, and it’s not known whether he’ll come back.I broke up with my partner (call him DH) because I saw that I was getting jealous and I didn’t want to hold onto a relationship with a person while secretly wishing to be with another person. It was very sad for both of us, and I do miss DH.DH has blocked me and says that he doesn’t want to talk to me for 6 months because he wants to heal and he is heartbroken, and talking to me hurts him. G was asking about where DH is and whether I’ve gotten into contact with him.I was saying that I feel like G lead me on and couldn’t admit that he wasn’t interested the whole time, and he insists that he’s simply not ready to be in a relationship with anyone because of his health problems.TL:DR what do I do from this point? Am I being too selfish and demanding because he does genuinely have health problems? Do I wait for him to be ready and healthy again? He is very kind and friendly to me, he talks to me almost everyday sometimes and he’s always helpful and treats me very well. We have formed a very close virtual friendship and it does frustrate me because I do want to visit him and get to know him more.