I need real advice please I don't know what to do.

I (21F) was going out with this trainer from my gym (25M), let's call him Dylan since december last year.

Dylan has been playing games with me, he kept me believing "I was the only one" and that he only had eyes for me and sh!t. It's been that long and he's kept me a secret in front of the people in the gym (which I thought was fine because he works there). He has these habit of saying we are going to do something and when the day comes not one text not one call, NOTHING. Of course I am mad because this is child-like behavior and I'm not his mom to tell him how to communicate like a decent person.

Mid-june I went to a party and I got very drunk and this other guy (he knows him) and I hooked up. I told him everything and said that I was sorry and everything. And he ALWAYS brought it up and said how could you do that. And yeah I took all responsability and all. And I did it because deep down I knew Dylan was cheating on me. Anyway one day he tells me "ok you ask people around and find for yourself that i haven't been with anyone for over a year except for you". I didn't do that ofc, I trusted him.

Anyway, today I tell my friend from the gym about him and she turns and tells me that she had been with him in february (my friend and i didn't know each other back then). And she tells me that he's been with other girls from the gym aswell.

People of reddit, what should I do?

-One part of me wants to just ignore his existance completely, not saying a word and just let my absence be his punishment.

-The other part of me wants to write a message and tell him all types of sh!t. Then block him and that's that.

**Also very important, I have an appointment with him this friday to measure my progress. But I don't know if I should go and just make him uncomfortable on purpose OR change trainers.

Please I need the b!tchiest and most revengeful advice. Does that make me a bad person? I hope not. I just loved him so much and can't believe he played me like dat.



Submitted September 21, 2022 at 01:14AM

I (21F) was going out with this trainer from my gym (25M), let's call him Dylan since december last year.Dylan has been playing games with me, he kept me believing "I was the only one" and that he only had eyes for me and sh!t. It's been that long and he's kept me a secret in front of the people in the gym (which I thought was fine because he works there). He has these habit of saying we are going to do something and when the day comes not one text not one call, NOTHING. Of course I am mad because this is child-like behavior and I'm not his mom to tell him how to communicate like a decent person.Mid-june I went to a party and I got very drunk and this other guy (he knows him) and I hooked up. I told him everything and said that I was sorry and everything. And he ALWAYS brought it up and said how could you do that. And yeah I took all responsability and all. And I did it because deep down I knew Dylan was cheating on me. Anyway one day he tells me "ok you ask people around and find for yourself that i haven't been with anyone for over a year except for you". I didn't do that ofc, I trusted him.Anyway, today I tell my friend from the gym about him and she turns and tells me that she had been with him in february (my friend and i didn't know each other back then). And she tells me that he's been with other girls from the gym aswell.People of reddit, what should I do?-One part of me wants to just ignore his existance completely, not saying a word and just let my absence be his punishment.-The other part of me wants to write a message and tell him all types of sh!t. Then block him and that's that.**Also very important, I have an appointment with him this friday to measure my progress. But I don't know if I should go and just make him uncomfortable on purpose OR change trainers.Please I need the b!tchiest and most revengeful advice. Does that make me a bad person? I hope not. I just loved him so much and can't believe he played me like dat.
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