Advice please

I need some perspective on a situation

I was seeing this guy for a few months and we cut off contact over a month ago. I reached out to him today and he responded a little but then just didn’t text back. It hurts my feelings honestly because I just feel like why is it so easy for him to just treat me like nothing ? I was completely fine and over the situation until I texted him today and I knew I shouldn’t have. We had a rocky time together and I felt like he was really interested in me in the beginning and he was very sweet and attentive, then it just drastically changed and I tried to be understanding but it just didn’t work out. My feelings for him were real and it just seemed like he was looking for a reason not to talk to me anymore. I don’t want to be sad about this situation for no more than a day but can someone give me perspective on why he just easily stopped caring about me ?

Apart of me just wants to straight up ask , why , why did he just stop caring, why is he so cold , why do I not matter at all to him. But I know I won’t get an answer. No matter how brutal it is I just want to know



Submitted September 10, 2022 at 01:13AM

I need some perspective on a situationI was seeing this guy for a few months and we cut off contact over a month ago. I reached out to him today and he responded a little but then just didn’t text back. It hurts my feelings honestly because I just feel like why is it so easy for him to just treat me like nothing ? I was completely fine and over the situation until I texted him today and I knew I shouldn’t have. We had a rocky time together and I felt like he was really interested in me in the beginning and he was very sweet and attentive, then it just drastically changed and I tried to be understanding but it just didn’t work out. My feelings for him were real and it just seemed like he was looking for a reason not to talk to me anymore. I don’t want to be sad about this situation for no more than a day but can someone give me perspective on why he just easily stopped caring about me ?Apart of me just wants to straight up ask , why , why did he just stop caring, why is he so cold , why do I not matter at all to him. But I know I won’t get an answer. No matter how brutal it is I just want to know
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