Meeting my crush/friend for coffee for the first time. How to let her know I like her?

I've been friends with this girl for about 5 years (we were students in the same university). When we first met, she had a boyfriend. I was interested in her at first, but decided to be friends once I got to know she had a bf (I mean my feelings towards her didn't go away, I just felt it would be unethical to make advances since she was in a relationship). She had since dated one or more two different guys after then bf. She's been single for about 6 months as far as I know. Me on the other hand have never been in a relationship but I've had crushes on other girls. I am just one year older than her. We have had a few fallouts over the years but have always become friends again.

Now she's single, I have been thinking of asking her out. I think (I think) I have been flirting with her, but she's somewhat friendly with guys (I live in an Asian country, girls tend to be rather shy here), so I dunno if she's flirting back or just being friendly. I think she knows I like her but as far as I know, other guys who seem to fancy her, so I am not sure where do I stand in that competition. I am not good at these things, sorry.

We used to hang out a lot when we were in university but I've only met her once after I saw her in the university. We met with her sister and one mutual friend of ours to see a movie a few months ago. Four of us enjoyed a meal, watched the movie had a good chat during those activities. There was no romantic stuff, just friends catching up on live after graduation from the university.

A few days after that meeting, while we were texting, she said she wanted to meet me again, this time she said it would be me and her. She didn't explicitly said it would be date and I actually don't know how to approach this. I like her and would like that to be a date, but I don't wanna scare her off by trying to be romantic if she's not into me. We have agreed we'd meet on a small coffee shop but haven't talked about any other things to do afterwards. There's a park near the coffee shop so I am thinking maybe I should ask her if we could go for a walk after we have food in the coffee shop. But even if she agrees to go for a walk, I don't know what to do. Should I flirt? Or have a normal conversation? I want to let her know I am interested, but I am scared to directly ask her out like "Hey do you wanna go out with me?" because I am not sure what her answer would be. But I'm thinking maybe there's another way of letting her know that I want to date her.

So please tell me, how should I approach this scenario?

Submitted August 12, 2022 at 12:14AM

I've been friends with this girl for about 5 years (we were students in the same university). When we first met, she had a boyfriend. I was interested in her at first, but decided to be friends once I got to know she had a bf (I mean my feelings towards her didn't go away, I just felt it would be unethical to make advances since she was in a relationship). She had since dated one or more two different guys after then bf. She's been single for about 6 months as far as I know. Me on the other hand have never been in a relationship but I've had crushes on other girls. I am just one year older than her. We have had a few fallouts over the years but have always become friends again.Now she's single, I have been thinking of asking her out. I think (I think) I have been flirting with her, but she's somewhat friendly with guys (I live in an Asian country, girls tend to be rather shy here), so I dunno if she's flirting back or just being friendly. I think she knows I like her but as far as I know, other guys who seem to fancy her, so I am not sure where do I stand in that competition. I am not good at these things, sorry.We used to hang out a lot when we were in university but I've only met her once after I saw her in the university. We met with her sister and one mutual friend of ours to see a movie a few months ago. Four of us enjoyed a meal, watched the movie had a good chat during those activities. There was no romantic stuff, just friends catching up on live after graduation from the university.A few days after that meeting, while we were texting, she said she wanted to meet me again, this time she said it would be me and her. She didn't explicitly said it would be date and I actually don't know how to approach this. I like her and would like that to be a date, but I don't wanna scare her off by trying to be romantic if she's not into me. We have agreed we'd meet on a small coffee shop but haven't talked about any other things to do afterwards. There's a park near the coffee shop so I am thinking maybe I should ask her if we could go for a walk after we have food in the coffee shop. But even if she agrees to go for a walk, I don't know what to do. Should I flirt? Or have a normal conversation? I want to let her know I am interested, but I am scared to directly ask her out like "Hey do you wanna go out with me?" because I am not sure what her answer would be. But I'm thinking maybe there's another way of letting her know that I want to date her.So please tell me, how should I approach this scenario?