He updated his Tinder profile but still scheduled a fifth date. His profile update confuses me though. Advice?

Hi everyone. I'm a bit new to dating so I feel like I'm more prone to overthinking things, I could really use some advice though.

Last Thursday (8/11) I went on a fourth date this this guy I met from Tinder. I really like him a lot and I thought it had went well, we even scheduled a fifth date for the following weekend and he seemed really into it. When I got home, I thanked him for a great time. While he's not big on texting, we had texted each other after all our dates, so this wasn't out of the ordinary. He didn't respond for five days though. I honestly thought he was ghosting me but he finally texted me back on Tuesday night - he apologized, cancelled our plans for Sunday because he said he'll be traveling, and instead proposed a new time for next Wednesday, which I agreed to.

I was happy and decided to look at his Tinder profile because ngl, sometimes I like to look at his photos lol. But I noticed he had added a new one. We've had no talks about exclusivity and it's only been four dates so I get it. But it's his bio update that has me really confused. His bio originally said he was interested in a long term relationship. He got rid of that sentence and replaced it with down for whatever and added a sentence about wanting honesty. I thought he wanted a long term relationship even though we had agreed to take things slow, and now I'm a little confused and not sure if this profile update means anything significant. Am I overthinking this? He proposed a fifth date so I feel like he must like me, but I'm wondering if this would be a good time to touch base and see how he's feeling about me. I just don't want to mess things up so I thought I'd ask for some advice on how I should proceed on our next date. Thank you!



Submitted August 20, 2022 at 12:15AM

Hi everyone. I'm a bit new to dating so I feel like I'm more prone to overthinking things, I could really use some advice though.Last Thursday (8/11) I went on a fourth date this this guy I met from Tinder. I really like him a lot and I thought it had went well, we even scheduled a fifth date for the following weekend and he seemed really into it. When I got home, I thanked him for a great time. While he's not big on texting, we had texted each other after all our dates, so this wasn't out of the ordinary. He didn't respond for five days though. I honestly thought he was ghosting me but he finally texted me back on Tuesday night - he apologized, cancelled our plans for Sunday because he said he'll be traveling, and instead proposed a new time for next Wednesday, which I agreed to.I was happy and decided to look at his Tinder profile because ngl, sometimes I like to look at his photos lol. But I noticed he had added a new one. We've had no talks about exclusivity and it's only been four dates so I get it. But it's his bio update that has me really confused. His bio originally said he was interested in a long term relationship. He got rid of that sentence and replaced it with down for whatever and added a sentence about wanting honesty. I thought he wanted a long term relationship even though we had agreed to take things slow, and now I'm a little confused and not sure if this profile update means anything significant. Am I overthinking this? He proposed a fifth date so I feel like he must like me, but I'm wondering if this would be a good time to touch base and see how he's feeling about me. I just don't want to mess things up so I thought I'd ask for some advice on how I should proceed on our next date. Thank you!
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