Can't find anyone to date? Or am I the problem? 22M

I everyone, I'm 22 (M) and no, I've never been in a relationship at all, I've never even kissed yet unluckily. I'm here to figure out why. My condition of kissless virgin is making me uncomfortable because while some years ago it wasn't a problem, now that all my friends talk about relationships related stuff I always feel out of context and jealous of what they have and I still don't have. Ok, I've already understood that many of them are in a relationship only because they are afraid of being alone, and I'm happy that I luckily can or I wouldn't have come this far in life ahahahah, but still I somehow envy them. I don't think my problem comes in confidence: I'm introverted and shy by nature but my friends all agree that I'm a genuine and pleasant person, I'd even consider me not the less interesting guy in the world, since I have various interested (I'd rather call them obsessions). I'm not the most handsome person in the world, but I like me even though I think I don't have a look that's kinda pleasant to most girls: I have long dreads and a bears, I'm not tall (5'8) and my physical shape could actually be better but it's not something that I care, I like how I look and I wouldn't change my appearance for anybody. I think my problem so far has been that I've never found a girl that I would have liked to date. Of course I've had crushes when i was a teen, but they all end up there (i also was extremely more unconfident). Since then I've dated only a girl just to try it but since we both didn't like each other from the very first time it didn't work out well. I don't know why, but I feel like I can't ask someone out if I'm not mentally attracted to them. Many friends of mine as we hang out approach a lot of girls, but even if I find them "hot" I still wouldn't move a finger because I'm not attired by their look only, and when it comes to conversation I'm not very responsive because I've never found a girl that really took my attention (I'm a bit egocentric so I really enjoy answering questions rather than asking, but most girls won't do it) Can you guys help me? Suggestions for solving this problem?



Submitted August 22, 2022 at 12:15AM

I everyone, I'm 22 (M) and no, I've never been in a relationship at all, I've never even kissed yet unluckily. I'm here to figure out why. My condition of kissless virgin is making me uncomfortable because while some years ago it wasn't a problem, now that all my friends talk about relationships related stuff I always feel out of context and jealous of what they have and I still don't have. Ok, I've already understood that many of them are in a relationship only because they are afraid of being alone, and I'm happy that I luckily can or I wouldn't have come this far in life ahahahah, but still I somehow envy them. I don't think my problem comes in confidence: I'm introverted and shy by nature but my friends all agree that I'm a genuine and pleasant person, I'd even consider me not the less interesting guy in the world, since I have various interested (I'd rather call them obsessions). I'm not the most handsome person in the world, but I like me even though I think I don't have a look that's kinda pleasant to most girls: I have long dreads and a bears, I'm not tall (5'8) and my physical shape could actually be better but it's not something that I care, I like how I look and I wouldn't change my appearance for anybody. I think my problem so far has been that I've never found a girl that I would have liked to date. Of course I've had crushes when i was a teen, but they all end up there (i also was extremely more unconfident). Since then I've dated only a girl just to try it but since we both didn't like each other from the very first time it didn't work out well. I don't know why, but I feel like I can't ask someone out if I'm not mentally attracted to them. Many friends of mine as we hang out approach a lot of girls, but even if I find them "hot" I still wouldn't move a finger because I'm not attired by their look only, and when it comes to conversation I'm not very responsive because I've never found a girl that really took my attention (I'm a bit egocentric so I really enjoy answering questions rather than asking, but most girls won't do it) Can you guys help me? Suggestions for solving this problem?
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