/u/binadanae on I can’t tell if i’m asexual, or somewhere else on the spectrum!

Sexual disgust is a very common response, and it seems especially high in women. Disgust is a natural feeling that has evolved to prevent us from things like illness and contamination. Saliva and sweat are two of the more gross aspects of sex. Those things are gross even without the sexual context. It could be that you’re quicker to disgust and even within the context of sex, it’s hard for you to shake. Most people feel disgust about bodies and it’s the context of sex and our desire for it and us getting turned on that usually overpowers the disgust at least while we’re doing it. Disgust isn’t always about physical things, we can have psychological disgust when we think about things that are traditionally seen as immoral, such as having sex.

I think you really need to think about why you are disgusted by certain things. I’m not sure what you meant about experimenting, and it could just be the newness of it and the fact that you were turned on that helped mitigate the disgust, but it didn’t sound like you were disgusted before. Perhaps it’s because you’re always thought of yourself as asexual and now that you are having sex, it doesn’t match your perception of yourself and you could be disgusted by that… By the fact that you’re supposed to be disgusted yet you’re engaging in sex.

Or maybe it’s the person you’re with… Perhaps you’re not very attracted to them or they don’t quite turn you on the same as people in the past and because of that, your disgust isn’t being mitigated.

This is a hard question to answer because discuss is a very natural normal response for nearly everyone. I think the reasonings behind it are probably very personal… Are you disgusted because you feel shame? Are you disgusted because you aren’t turned on enough during sexual experiences to ignore the less appealing aspects of sex? Are you with a partner you are as attracted to? It’s hard to say

July 28, 2022 at 11:43PM