Is it recoverable?

I (M21) told (F21) how I felt to early and spooked her. For background we only been talking for about 2 weeks and we are polar opposites. I’m more extroverted and wears my heart on my sleeves while she’s more introverted and closed off. I take things at a fast pace while she takes things at a slower pace.

I told her yesterday that I like her and wanted to move faster and this scared her. She wanted to talk for six months before dating and she’s not used to such a fast pace and the pace we already been going is to fast for her. She never had a Boyfriend or even kissed a guy.

We went on a “date” but she didn’t want to count it as date and more of a hangout. But we were doing date things like hugging on each other and holding hands.

She said she felt like the pace that she wants doesn’t line up with what I want or need. I’m down to slow down because I really like her.(I get attached fast) I had a girlfriends in the past my longest being two years.

I came up with a deal where basically I give her control of our pace(I won’t make any moves or ask anything personal and stuff will only happen if she is the initiator). She agreed to this and we will see how it goes.

But I keep thinking I already lost. Like I already showed her my cards and maybe she already lost interest because she knows how much I already care.

Advice? ( posting this off phone so sorry for format)

Submitted July 31, 2022 at 12:11AM

I (M21) told (F21) how I felt to early and spooked her. For background we only been talking for about 2 weeks and we are polar opposites. I’m more extroverted and wears my heart on my sleeves while she’s more introverted and closed off. I take things at a fast pace while she takes things at a slower pace.I told her yesterday that I like her and wanted to move faster and this scared her. She wanted to talk for six months before dating and she’s not used to such a fast pace and the pace we already been going is to fast for her. She never had a Boyfriend or even kissed a guy.We went on a “date” but she didn’t want to count it as date and more of a hangout. But we were doing date things like hugging on each other and holding hands.She said she felt like the pace that she wants doesn’t line up with what I want or need. I’m down to slow down because I really like her.(I get attached fast) I had a girlfriends in the past my longest being two years.I came up with a deal where basically I give her control of our pace(I won’t make any moves or ask anything personal and stuff will only happen if she is the initiator). She agreed to this and we will see how it goes.But I keep thinking I already lost. Like I already showed her my cards and maybe she already lost interest because she knows how much I already care.Advice? ( posting this off phone so sorry for format)