He hasn't replied to my message but has been online...

So I met this really cute guy through my friend and I thought things were going well? We'd talk whenever we met (bbq, dim sum) and had good conversation, laughing a good amount too. I hit him up after dim sum and he'd taken a while to respond each time though it went on from Sunday to Tuesday... in my head I'm like if you're taking hours to reply each time why are you even bothering to keep on the convo by asking more questions? I was joking about how he should teach us to make dumplings! and he said he'd coordinate it and I didn't take it seriously until he planned a couple of us to cook lunch together. I was surprised because we all know he doesn't like initiating and making plans

We cooked lunch with our one friend and the conversation was going well, lots of questions were directed at me trying to get to know me ("what do you notice in a person when you first meet them?" and inquiring about my life) and I'd return the question. We laughed a lot (thought it was playful IMO) and made eye contact with each other so I really did feel something brewing. We hung out for 6 hours so I think that's a good sign...

I hit him up two days later (yesterday) and it's been over a day since I texted him "hey, how've you been? did you get the [moving] boxes?" even though he's clearly online on messenger and even frequently it seems...

He did say he was really stressed about moving apts and moving day is nearing but I don't think it's justifiable to ignore someone? I also know he doesn't have the most experience with girls so am I not making myself clear that I'm interested? It doesn't matter at this point right... because if he was he'd just reply back...

Sorry I know everything isn't about me but I've lost hope and am taking it personally clearly



Submitted July 28, 2022 at 12:54AM

So I met this really cute guy through my friend and I thought things were going well? We'd talk whenever we met (bbq, dim sum) and had good conversation, laughing a good amount too. I hit him up after dim sum and he'd taken a while to respond each time though it went on from Sunday to Tuesday... in my head I'm like if you're taking hours to reply each time why are you even bothering to keep on the convo by asking more questions? I was joking about how he should teach us to make dumplings! and he said he'd coordinate it and I didn't take it seriously until he planned a couple of us to cook lunch together. I was surprised because we all know he doesn't like initiating and making plansWe cooked lunch with our one friend and the conversation was going well, lots of questions were directed at me trying to get to know me ("what do you notice in a person when you first meet them?" and inquiring about my life) and I'd return the question. We laughed a lot (thought it was playful IMO) and made eye contact with each other so I really did feel something brewing. We hung out for 6 hours so I think that's a good sign...I hit him up two days later (yesterday) and it's been over a day since I texted him "hey, how've you been? did you get the [moving] boxes?" even though he's clearly online on messenger and even frequently it seems...He did say he was really stressed about moving apts and moving day is nearing but I don't think it's justifiable to ignore someone? I also know he doesn't have the most experience with girls so am I not making myself clear that I'm interested? It doesn't matter at this point right... because if he was he'd just reply back...Sorry I know everything isn't about me but I've lost hope and am taking it personally clearly
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