i don’t want to seem dumb…

okay so i just need some advice because i have some trauma with dating and i would like an objective perspective. i (22f) met this guy (24m) and we have been on 3 incredible dates over the course of a month. each date was better then the last. sex on the first date (drinks and back to my place to watch a movie) and the second date we didn’t have sex (went to sushi, got a drink, went our ways for the night) and third date was an at home date where we cooked together and had sex and it was awesome. lots of flirting and romance and sweet kisses and everything seems great. so after that date it’s been about 3 weeks since i’ve seen him because he was studying for his Step 1 test in med school. during this time we were texting briefly every day, whether it was sharing a song or just exchanging hellos. i felt good about this bc even during his stressful times he was still checking in i guess.

so here comes the questions. he took his test recently (friday) and we had an awesome long text convo. saturday i sent him a song to which he immediately opened but didn’t respond. now today is sunday. i really want to see him but i don’t want to be annoying and double text especially if he left me on read and was off the whole weekend but i want to see him. do you think he would’ve asked to see me if he wanted? or should i take the plunge and ask regardless of him leaving me on read? where’s the line drawn of me “not taking a hint” or am i being insane ?



Submitted May 02, 2022 at 12:10AM

okay so i just need some advice because i have some trauma with dating and i would like an objective perspective. i (22f) met this guy (24m) and we have been on 3 incredible dates over the course of a month. each date was better then the last. sex on the first date (drinks and back to my place to watch a movie) and the second date we didn’t have sex (went to sushi, got a drink, went our ways for the night) and third date was an at home date where we cooked together and had sex and it was awesome. lots of flirting and romance and sweet kisses and everything seems great. so after that date it’s been about 3 weeks since i’ve seen him because he was studying for his Step 1 test in med school. during this time we were texting briefly every day, whether it was sharing a song or just exchanging hellos. i felt good about this bc even during his stressful times he was still checking in i guess.so here comes the questions. he took his test recently (friday) and we had an awesome long text convo. saturday i sent him a song to which he immediately opened but didn’t respond. now today is sunday. i really want to see him but i don’t want to be annoying and double text especially if he left me on read and was off the whole weekend but i want to see him. do you think he would’ve asked to see me if he wanted? or should i take the plunge and ask regardless of him leaving me on read? where’s the line drawn of me “not taking a hint” or am i being insane ?
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