F20 stopped being friends with M23

2 years ago, I (M23) have meet someone online (F20) and we had an interesting path. After a few months of talking, we started to have feelings for each other which wasn’t a good thing since she was dating someone, this led us to having some fights which ended with taking breaks but after a while we would come back and start talking again. Last year we finally managed to meet up in person and we had an amazing weekend, the same way we clicked online happened in person too, it went even better than we both expected. But after that meeting, she got involved with a guy and I took a step back and didn’t talk to her too much since I wanted her to have no distractions in that new relationship. Like 1.5 months ago we were having a talk which led to an argument where she basically said I was clingy and that she doesn’t even want to be friends anymore, she unfriended me on snap (the main app we used to talk) but we kept following each other on instagram. That fight was a bit surprising for me for 2 reasons, the IRL meet up was a success and she really loved finally meeting with me in person which I thought was a good thing and the 2nd reason is that I haven’t talked too much to her ever since we saw each other in person, I know I used to be clingy, but I have changed and stopped being like that with her. A few days ago, I noticed something weird in her online behavior, on Instagram she removed me from her followers so I can’t see any of her posts, but she is still following me and can see what I post, then I found out that she broke up with her boyfriend.

I know that this cycle of talking and taking a break is toxic, but I genuinely miss her and would really want to be friends with her again, I have never clicked with anyone on such level, and I really miss her company.

And I was wondering why she removed me from her followers? My first thought is that she did this, so I won’t see what she is up to anymore and that I won’t reach out to her and pursue her to being friends again now that she is single.

TL;DR Long distance friend/ex removed me from her list of followers after her most recent break up and I don't know why?



Submitted March 14, 2022 at 12:11AM

2 years ago, I (M23) have meet someone online (F20) and we had an interesting path. After a few months of talking, we started to have feelings for each other which wasn’t a good thing since she was dating someone, this led us to having some fights which ended with taking breaks but after a while we would come back and start talking again. Last year we finally managed to meet up in person and we had an amazing weekend, the same way we clicked online happened in person too, it went even better than we both expected. But after that meeting, she got involved with a guy and I took a step back and didn’t talk to her too much since I wanted her to have no distractions in that new relationship. Like 1.5 months ago we were having a talk which led to an argument where she basically said I was clingy and that she doesn’t even want to be friends anymore, she unfriended me on snap (the main app we used to talk) but we kept following each other on instagram. That fight was a bit surprising for me for 2 reasons, the IRL meet up was a success and she really loved finally meeting with me in person which I thought was a good thing and the 2nd reason is that I haven’t talked too much to her ever since we saw each other in person, I know I used to be clingy, but I have changed and stopped being like that with her. A few days ago, I noticed something weird in her online behavior, on Instagram she removed me from her followers so I can’t see any of her posts, but she is still following me and can see what I post, then I found out that she broke up with her boyfriend.I know that this cycle of talking and taking a break is toxic, but I genuinely miss her and would really want to be friends with her again, I have never clicked with anyone on such level, and I really miss her company.And I was wondering why she removed me from her followers? My first thought is that she did this, so I won’t see what she is up to anymore and that I won’t reach out to her and pursue her to being friends again now that she is single.TL;DR Long distance friend/ex removed me from her list of followers after her most recent break up and I don't know why?
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