Did I leave a good man ? Should I have stayed ?

I dated a guy my junior year of high school up until my sophomore year of college. When I think back on it he was nice he was thoughtful. He would take me to school in the morning, he would take me home after. I played basketball so he would come to my games. If I needed a ride somewhere he would take me. He would buy me food he would buy me other things sometimes just because (I did the same lol). If something made me upset he would try to make me feel better if we argued sometimes it wasn’t even really an argument because he would be the bigger person and apologize. He loved me out loud. In high school even though we were in a relationship he still asked me to go to prom with him in front of the school after one of my basketball games. We kinda seemed perfect the only thing was he cheated on me, about 3 times well I only know about 3 times. Each time he begged me to come back and I did. I felt betrayed it was my first heartbreak and it was something that made me question my value like what’s wrong with me ? What does she have that I don’t. It was hard for me to trust him especially because when we went to college he went to a school down south and I stayed in the state. I wanted him to have fun in college so I didn’t want to smother him and always be on the phone with him but I was sure nervous about things he could possibly do. I loved him and I trusted him enough to stay with him and each time he just would cheat again. He even told his mother I cheated on him and that I made him come pick me up from the gym knowing he was sick and she called me yelling at me when in reality none of that ever happened. I had to let him go after that last time but now I think and second guess myself. Should I have stayed ? Was it because we were young that he cheated? Am I selfish? Plz help

Submitted February 02, 2022 at 06:27PM

I dated a guy my junior year of high school up until my sophomore year of college. When I think back on it he was nice he was thoughtful. He would take me to school in the morning, he would take me home after. I played basketball so he would come to my games. If I needed a ride somewhere he would take me. He would buy me food he would buy me other things sometimes just because (I did the same lol). If something made me upset he would try to make me feel better if we argued sometimes it wasn’t even really an argument because he would be the bigger person and apologize. He loved me out loud. In high school even though we were in a relationship he still asked me to go to prom with him in front of the school after one of my basketball games. We kinda seemed perfect the only thing was he cheated on me, about 3 times well I only know about 3 times. Each time he begged me to come back and I did. I felt betrayed it was my first heartbreak and it was something that made me question my value like what’s wrong with me ? What does she have that I don’t. It was hard for me to trust him especially because when we went to college he went to a school down south and I stayed in the state. I wanted him to have fun in college so I didn’t want to smother him and always be on the phone with him but I was sure nervous about things he could possibly do. I loved him and I trusted him enough to stay with him and each time he just would cheat again. He even told his mother I cheated on him and that I made him come pick me up from the gym knowing he was sick and she called me yelling at me when in reality none of that ever happened. I had to let him go after that last time but now I think and second guess myself. Should I have stayed ? Was it because we were young that he cheated? Am I selfish? Plz help