Going to a hockey game with a girl who I took out and clicked with. However the flip has switched,

Sunday I [27M] decided to try dating again for the first time since July. I went on tinder and among some of the messages I received one was a girl asking if I wanted to go to a Red Wings game. Since I played travel hockey for 11 years and I am a huge wings fan I agreed without hesitation. We hung out the next day and we vibed really well. She confirmed she wanted me to go. We did end up sleeping together even though neither of us planned on it.She said she was "very much so interested" and would "be super disappointed" if I didn't text her the next day.

The next day we facetimed and she seemed tired so the vibe was a little different. I have been in kind of a bad place and being with her was an escape - not to mention it was the first date/sex since being back in the game for me. I told her "I didn't know about the red wings game because I liked you already". She explained that it wasn't one sided and seemed like she wanted me to go but was acting ok if I didn't. So I agreed I would go and we made plans for Sunday.

Well.. now she barely even talks to me. I know she has been on tinder multiple times (you can see when someone was last active - ask how in the comments and I'll tell you). The vibe is different. I am extremely bummed because 1) I feel like I was lead on and 2) I am supposed to go to the red wings game with this person and a BUNCH of her friends.. her being the only person I'll know.. yet she doesn't even want to talk to me? I was SUPER excited about the game and told my work, my fam and my friends. It was a done deal, not tentative. I don't know what caused the flip to switch that much. I know she is busy but when we first started talking she texted me back in like 2 minutes... now she doesn't.. I want to ask her if we can meet up and start over. I feel like out of nowhere, despite her telling her how much she likes me she is going to ghost and not have me come to the game... Like that would just be so shitty. What do I do?



Submitted December 11, 2021 at 12:16AM

Sunday I [27M] decided to try dating again for the first time since July. I went on tinder and among some of the messages I received one was a girl asking if I wanted to go to a Red Wings game. Since I played travel hockey for 11 years and I am a huge wings fan I agreed without hesitation. We hung out the next day and we vibed really well. She confirmed she wanted me to go. We did end up sleeping together even though neither of us planned on it.She said she was "very much so interested" and would "be super disappointed" if I didn't text her the next day.The next day we facetimed and she seemed tired so the vibe was a little different. I have been in kind of a bad place and being with her was an escape - not to mention it was the first date/sex since being back in the game for me. I told her "I didn't know about the red wings game because I liked you already". She explained that it wasn't one sided and seemed like she wanted me to go but was acting ok if I didn't. So I agreed I would go and we made plans for Sunday.Well.. now she barely even talks to me. I know she has been on tinder multiple times (you can see when someone was last active - ask how in the comments and I'll tell you). The vibe is different. I am extremely bummed because 1) I feel like I was lead on and 2) I am supposed to go to the red wings game with this person and a BUNCH of her friends.. her being the only person I'll know.. yet she doesn't even want to talk to me? I was SUPER excited about the game and told my work, my fam and my friends. It was a done deal, not tentative. I don't know what caused the flip to switch that much. I know she is busy but when we first started talking she texted me back in like 2 minutes... now she doesn't.. I want to ask her if we can meet up and start over. I feel like out of nowhere, despite her telling her how much she likes me she is going to ghost and not have me come to the game... Like that would just be so shitty. What do I do?
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