I can barely look at my wife with how she's rejecting and treating our sons cause their gay

It's been a month since our youngest son[13] came out in that month our middle son [18] also came out though it wasn't a surprise I had suspected he was gay for a long time. In fact we had discussed the prospect of him[middle son] being gay and she seemed ok with it, was more concerned about me and how i'd react. In this past month i've seen her make our son cry by disregarding his feelings and treating his sexuality like a phase, calling his boyfriend a "friend" and insisting how cute he'd be with a female friend of his. Which certainly hasn't helped our middle son with his process of coming out, he seemed more afraid to tell us than our youngest did.

I've tried to talk to her and it just seems to lead to a fight. I've left pamphlet for her and even a book to try to help her come to terms with this news, all of which I later found in the trash. I suggested therapy as family but it lead to a fight where she suggested therapy to help our sons confusion. I've been trying to work over time to make sure they feel loved and accepted and frankly to try to undo the damage she is doing but i'm getting exhausted. I've out right told her she's literally causing her boys pain but she brushes it off.

I'm finding it harder and harder to even look at her, I started sleeping in our guest room as I can't even stand sleeping next to her. I don't understand how she can treat our boys like this, I truly don't get it.

Submitted October 11, 2020 at 12:35AM

It's been a month since our youngest son[13] came out in that month our middle son [18] also came out though it wasn't a surprise I had suspected he was gay for a long time. In fact we had discussed the prospect of him[middle son] being gay and she seemed ok with it, was more concerned about me and how i'd react. In this past month i've seen her make our son cry by disregarding his feelings and treating his sexuality like a phase, calling his boyfriend a "friend" and insisting how cute he'd be with a female friend of his. Which certainly hasn't helped our middle son with his process of coming out, he seemed more afraid to tell us than our youngest did.I've tried to talk to her and it just seems to lead to a fight. I've left pamphlet for her and even a book to try to help her come to terms with this news, all of which I later found in the trash. I suggested therapy as family but it lead to a fight where she suggested therapy to help our sons confusion. I've been trying to work over time to make sure they feel loved and accepted and frankly to try to undo the damage she is doing but i'm getting exhausted. I've out right told her she's literally causing her boys pain but she brushes it off.I'm finding it harder and harder to even look at her, I started sleeping in our guest room as I can't even stand sleeping next to her. I don't understand how she can treat our boys like this, I truly don't get it.