Is this person I briefly dated in Dec/Jan just fishing for attention due to being lonely in COVID? Should I bother replying to his text? Questioning my current relationship.

I 33 (f) was exclusively seeing someone 32 (m) for 2 months who I met on OLD from Dec to the end of Jan in NYC. He was pursing me hard, treating me, & telling me I was GF material. I hadn't met anyone I felt so strongly about in years & was thinking we had the potential of having a LTR. He abruptly ended things out of the blue via text (which i appreciated because no one likes being ghosted) Apparently his ex-girlfriend randomly called him & wanted to try to get back together & but he insisted he wanted to remain friends and thought I was great (yeah probably giving me the kind version of the truth but who knows?). We texted occasionally through the end of Feb very platonic/friendly stuff related to our common niche interest in this one particular podcast. He initiated all the texts.

I met someone new in early Feb who I'm now in a serious exclusive relationship with. I got a "are you okay covid is so crazy text" from the guy who ended things with me for his ex late march. I was polite about and let him know I was seeing someone new who I was quarantining with. Haven't heard from him at all for the past 4 months.

During the past 4 months since then, things moved very quickly between me & this new guy due to lockdown in NYC & us deciding to quarantine together since March. We met at the beginning of Feb & had more chemistry than the first guy but less in common in terms of our interests but not lifestyle. Me and new guy have fallen in love & have been talking about officially moving in together but there are some red flags I've seen in the past month which are making me question whether we're compatible enough for our relationship to be sustainable and whether I should start putting my feelers out there again or if that's wrong? I don't know if being in love is honestly enough for an incompatible couple to last long term. We're both super stressed due to being unemployed rn so it's putting a lot of strain on our relationship and the worst is coming out since we pretty much are together 24/7. Not normal for me at all but 2020 is anything but normal.

Old guy from Dec-Jan sent me a text last night which was super friendly and asking how I've been doing hoping me and fam have been well. have I been listening to all the great podcasts over the past 4 months? etc nothing more than friendly text But it was at 1:30 AM. We don't live in the same state so he wasn't looking for a booty call & he knows I'm with someone or at least I was last time we texted.

Is this dude just fishing for attention? Do I bother responding? My gut is saying be a nice person and reply because maybe he is lonely? Also maybe he's just not worth my time? Part of me thinks maybe he's the one that got away? I'm so confused.

Submitted August 04, 2020 at 11:52PM

I 33 (f) was exclusively seeing someone 32 (m) for 2 months who I met on OLD from Dec to the end of Jan in NYC. He was pursing me hard, treating me, & telling me I was GF material. I hadn't met anyone I felt so strongly about in years & was thinking we had the potential of having a LTR. He abruptly ended things out of the blue via text (which i appreciated because no one likes being ghosted) Apparently his ex-girlfriend randomly called him & wanted to try to get back together & but he insisted he wanted to remain friends and thought I was great (yeah probably giving me the kind version of the truth but who knows?). We texted occasionally through the end of Feb very platonic/friendly stuff related to our common niche interest in this one particular podcast. He initiated all the texts.I met someone new in early Feb who I'm now in a serious exclusive relationship with. I got a "are you okay covid is so crazy text" from the guy who ended things with me for his ex late march. I was polite about and let him know I was seeing someone new who I was quarantining with. Haven't heard from him at all for the past 4 months.During the past 4 months since then, things moved very quickly between me & this new guy due to lockdown in NYC & us deciding to quarantine together since March. We met at the beginning of Feb & had more chemistry than the first guy but less in common in terms of our interests but not lifestyle. Me and new guy have fallen in love & have been talking about officially moving in together but there are some red flags I've seen in the past month which are making me question whether we're compatible enough for our relationship to be sustainable and whether I should start putting my feelers out there again or if that's wrong? I don't know if being in love is honestly enough for an incompatible couple to last long term. We're both super stressed due to being unemployed rn so it's putting a lot of strain on our relationship and the worst is coming out since we pretty much are together 24/7. Not normal for me at all but 2020 is anything but normal.Old guy from Dec-Jan sent me a text last night which was super friendly and asking how I've been doing hoping me and fam have been well. have I been listening to all the great podcasts over the past 4 months? etc nothing more than friendly text But it was at 1:30 AM. We don't live in the same state so he wasn't looking for a booty call & he knows I'm with someone or at least I was last time we texted.Is this dude just fishing for attention? Do I bother responding? My gut is saying be a nice person and reply because maybe he is lonely? Also maybe he's just not worth my time? Part of me thinks maybe he's the one that got away? I'm so confused.