How to *independently* build my sexual confidence and feel more attractive/desirable- while living with your partner?

Hi there.

For reasons I don't want to get into, I've been feeling less-than attractive, desirable, or sexy in any way recently.

I'm not even 30 yet. I'm not overweight, and I thought I was pretty. I really thought I was. I used to be able to look at a (now ex) partner a certain way and they would pounce me. Less than 10 years later, I feel like I'm rock bottom. Undesirable, ugly, valueless trash. I want and need to change that.

I want to learn to do things- that don't involve anyone else, at all- to help me to build back up to feeling more attractive, confident, and valuable again.

Has anyone felt like this and worked their way back up to feeling better and more attractive again? I feel like I'm wasting my "sexual prime" 😓 Any suggestions? Help is appreciated 😔



Submitted February 28, 2020 at 10:58PM

Hi there.For reasons I don't want to get into, I've been feeling less-than attractive, desirable, or sexy in any way recently.I'm not even 30 yet. I'm not overweight, and I thought I was pretty. I really thought I was. I used to be able to look at a (now ex) partner a certain way and they would pounce me. Less than 10 years later, I feel like I'm rock bottom. Undesirable, ugly, valueless trash. I want and need to change that.I want to learn to do things- that don't involve anyone else, at all- to help me to build back up to feeling more attractive, confident, and valuable again.Has anyone felt like this and worked their way back up to feeling better and more attractive again? I feel like I'm wasting my "sexual prime" 😓 Any suggestions? Help is appreciated 😔
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