So, a girl I work with I think likes me. Now she will sit with me over everyone including her father on all our breaks. We have good conversations, and she makes the effort to keep the conversation going. The confusion for me is once we are working, she will purposely ignore me, refuse to look at me if she thinks I will see, but I catch her when I have my back to her. She will also find excuses to walk near, next and by me but completely ignore me looking everywhere but at me but can tell she’s trying to see me in her peripherals. I guess why she does this, I have never experienced this before. Submitted August 03, 2023 at 12:16AM So, a girl I work with I think likes me. Now she will sit with me over everyone including her father on all our breaks. We have good conversations, and she makes the effort to keep the conversation going. The confusion for me is once we are working, she will purposely ignore me, refuse to look at me if she thinks I will see, but I catch her when I have...

I’m aroace and like bondage. Have an open conversation with her about what you are and aren’t comfortable with. You’re both allowed hard limits, but these need to be communicated. She sent you a check list? You’ve already spotted things you know you refuse to do? Great. You have the start of the talk. Don’t let her talk you into anything you don’t feel comfortable with, some of what you’ve listed can be a lot even for an experienced Dom. And I’m side eying the breath play listing. That shit is dangerous if you don’t know what you’re doing. Bondage can be great because it’s intimate. But you’re also putting a lot of trust in each other. Go slowly, try not to push yourself. Your feelings are just as important as hers and you have the right to stop the session if you’re also overwhelmed. But I’m sure it’ll be fine, Just remember to always communicate what you are and aren’t comfortable with and stick to what you agreed. Also, and I can’t stress this enough, make sure you both know th...

Obviously in the bi example, the bisexual person can still reciprocate their current partner's sexual attraction so it isn't the same with a gay person and a straight one. Or an allo and an ace, since the sexual attraction in these two situations isn't mutual. But thing is most people want their sexual desire for their partner to be reciprocated (because most people are allo), so if they find out the partner doesn't desire them the same way they do they feel lied to. August 01, 2023 at 11:32PM

The reason I don't hit the join button on this sub is basically this, most of the posts here are one of the following: "Yooooo ace flag!" "Don't you hate it when [banal thing that has nothing to do with being ace]?" "Am I ace if I do [thing that the FAQ would clear up]?" July 31, 2023 at 11:23PM

This is such a difficult question. I do CONSTANTLY wish I was allo, especially because I am sex repulsed. No matter how much therapy I go to, nothing changes the subconscious guilt I have of feeling like a failure as a partner because my partner is allo (he is well aware of my sexuality and fully accepts me for who I am). HOWEVER, if I simply accepted that I am a sex repulsed asexual much earlier in life and never had an allo partner, I feel like my answer would be “stay as an asexual.” I love my partner, please don’t think I don’t, I just don’t understand how an allo would want to be in this situation… July 31, 2023 at 11:21PM

I haven't been to queer specific events because I'm too shy. However, I coincidentally made friends with a lot of queer people before I realized I was queer (maybe we're drawn to each other haha). I've found queer people to be one of the most accepting groups and they were supportive when I thought I was straight, when I came out as heteromantic ace, and when I realized I am biromantic. They supported me through my changes on my journey of self discovery. That being said, I've met these friends at college and not at a queer group. I think in interest specific group settings things can easily get "competitive". Eg. Book club "well I read REAL books and not mainstream movie books". And competitive for queer spaces is "well I'm more queer than you" July 31, 2023 at 11:20PM

Yes I've been in both non consensual relationship and consensual and to be honest I never felt like the way people described like I have felt the need to suddenly sleep with someone got a pretty normal to lower libido so I think of it like the lower half is doing its good but my personality and brain is like nah. Yes I chose to do it with her but because I wanted to feel loved and wanted to understand what the others felt. But everytime I did it I felt normal and not all hot and flustered. I just did it like an act or something. July 31, 2023 at 11:12PM