I’m (23m) in a pretty tight predicament right now. Not sure how I should handle this without being seen as an a-hole. I might be losing physical attraction to my girlfriend (27), but long story short I have constantly been in my gfs corner about what she should do about her weight. I’ve actively tried getting her to exercise with me, eat healthier, come for my daily runs, and even have tried to set her up with a Hello Fresh account to get her to cook her own meals. Nothing has worked and she consistently complains about how overweight she is and how unattractive she is. I do my best to comfort her and appreciate her but she listens to what I have to say and it’s basically in one ear and out the other. I don’t know what to do, and I feel like an a-hole for even saying that I’m losing attraction to her and in a way it’s putting a strain on our relationship. Any advice would be appreciated as I constantly feel like I’m walking around eggshells around this topic and around her. Submit...

I think at times a high libido can mask asexuality, in a sense that there are some ace people who don't realize it due to the contrast in their libido and attraction. Specially if you are sex-positive and alloromantic, I can see it being hard to pinpoint. I have a high libido but 0 interest in sex even though I don't mind the idea of it. It took me forever to realize that not minding it is not the same as wanting it lol. You can probably increase libido since it is a physical thing and I guess you can also work on sex favorability if you want to and work on it, but with attraction: I doubt there is any way to influence that. Best thing to do is really understand your comforts and see how they match with your partner or potential partner. You might be okay with certain acts more than others and involving different components and situations definitely can give a different feel so it would be best to really see where you stand. I know a lotta aces are into kink and stuff, somet...

I had to tell a guy today that we are not a match, but hey good luck out there. But he wouldn’t let it go. He wanted to know exactly why we are not a match. So I told him his art is scary. Then he started debating that. I could have just unmatched him but I didn’t want to be rude, so I gave him my parting words. But he didn’t let it end there. So I had to have an awkward conversation about his artwork. Now I know why people ghost. My advice is when someone says we are not a match believe them and move on. Submitted April 25, 2023 at 01:09AM I had to tell a guy today that we are not a match, but hey good luck out there. But he wouldn’t let it go. He wanted to know exactly why we are not a match. So I told him his art is scary. Then he started debating that. I could have just unmatched him but I didn’t want to be rude, so I gave him my parting words. But he didn’t let it end there. So I had to have an awkward conversation about his artwork. Now I know why people ghost. My advice i...

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TL;DR: A girl I have been seeing for 6 months has been distant recently due to her finishing grad school, family issues and job searching. Should I keep talking to her or take a step back? Hey everyone, I have been seeing this girl since last October. Everything was great from the start and I didn't have very strong feelings for her until about February. She had strong feelings since November, but in February, she started becoming for distant because we never had the talk about what we were and she thought I wasn't into her. In February, we both hooked up with other people. When I found this out, we had a talk near the end of March. The talk consisted of me telling her the feelings I have for her and that I saw us being something really fun and exciting. A relationship and all. She said that she saw that with me too, but that she was trying to pull back a bit because we didn't share how we felt (I believe this is both of our faults). She also said that night that she is ...

Is it okay for someone you’re in the “talking” stage with to not answer for 12+ hours? For context, this is our second time trying dating. They admit they have trouble communicating but I asked them to put in more effort. I don’t want to overreact and push them away but I feel like this is ridiculous. If I was on their mind, they would text right? Submitted April 24, 2023 at 02:10AM Is it okay for someone you’re in the “talking” stage with to not answer for 12+ hours? For context, this is our second time trying dating. They admit they have trouble communicating but I asked them to put in more effort. I don’t want to overreact and push them away but I feel like this is ridiculous. If I was on their mind, they would text right?

A couple of weeks ago I (M23) ran into an old friend at one of the bars. It was her and her sister’s 21st birthday. Her sister used to date one of my buddies a few years ago and that’s how we met. Her and I talked and flirted a little bit back then. One of my friends wanted me to ask her out and make a move, bc he thought she liked me. I couldn’t tell, as basically every time we were around each other we were drinking. That same friend also liked her, and they became pretty close but I don’t think she felt the same way about him. They’re still close to this day. I hadn’t seen her in almost two years, since her sister and my friend broke up. We would text each other randomly but super infrequently, just teasing each other and bantering. Only a few times per year. After I saw her at the bar, we reconnected, and she texted me later in the week about hanging out sometime. Her and I had never spent time by ourselves. On Friday night, her sister dropped her off at my apartment to have s...