Buy gold, bye! December 22, 2020 at 11:56PM

Huh, that…makes a lot of sense. My gaydar is also terrible, and (as with you) tends to be more “wishful thinking” than actual gaydar. December 22, 2020 at 11:53PM

I can relate to this and I've been in almost identical position in my life. After lots of thinking and research now I know that people like me and you totally can describe themselves as asexuals, becouse asexuality isn't the same for everyone. Asexuality is not feeling (or rarely feeling) sexual attraction to other people, how that affects you describes what type of asexual are you. There is no list of requirements that you must meet to be asexual. December 22, 2020 at 11:52PM

Thank you bunches!!! December 22, 2020 at 11:50PM

Is there a non-insult variation for it though? December 22, 2020 at 11:48PM

I'm sorry to hear that. I have some friends who went through that too, so I know it's hard to recover from. Honestly, I don't know how trauma affects sexual attraction (or the lack thereof). My sister is a child psychologist - maybe I should ask her someday. The two friends I mentioned do not consider themselves asexual. In fact, when I told one of them about me, she emphatically insisted she wasn't like that. You're the only person who can say for sure who you are. Not your mom, not your therapist, not me or anyone else on this sub. Only you. But figuring yourself out can be complicated and can take time. It may even change over the course of your life. Let yourself feel what you're feeling, and see where that takes you. December 22, 2020 at 11:48PM

After I came to terms with my sexuality, I was pretty resigned to being permanently single. I'm pretty independent, but I hate that all my friends have partners to rely on and I'm left changing my own tire on the side of the highway. However.. my cousin started dating this guy who had a firm line in the sand of "no sex period" and while it didn't work out for them, I'm getting to know him because I think he's one of us. December 22, 2020 at 11:47PM