I also don't desire physical intimacy, but I am married and have been with my husband for nearly ten years. He IS my best friend, but I wouldn't describe our relationship as friendship, because my love for him is different from the love for my friends or family. It's difficult to explain. I love being around him, talking to him, my feelings for him are definitely romantic, but not physical (I don't crave sex or kissing). I can't project those same romantic feelings to any of my friends. I like my friends, but I don't want their company 24/7, in fact I'd go crazy if I had to hang out with them all the time (I'm an introvert). However, being with my husband feels like home. I don't get sick of him. Also, the thought of my husband loving someone else romantically would make me very jealous, whereas I don't care who my friends love or have sex with. September 11, 2020 at 11:47PM

I know a ton of allo people who don't put a huge value on having sex. I don't think it's as important to many people as allonormativity has led us to believe and it's actually very normal, especially after the hormone craziness of youth subsides. I've even known some allos who are sex-repulsed and don't want to have sex, or just don't want to have sex for other reasons, even though they feel sexual attraction regularly. They are all welcome to hang in ace communities as allies, but I don't think it would be okay for an allo to claim they were asexual just because they didn't like sex -- especially given how many people think asexuality is just "dislike for sex" and not a sexual orientation. I feel it would reinforce a problematic stereotype at the expense of real asexuals who don't feel sexual attraction but think they can't identify as "asexual" if they have/enjoy sex, thus preventing them from finding the information ...

Yay i found other Ace Lesbians September 11, 2020 at 11:37PM

So wear it on the thumb or ring finger on the right hand and not the middle? Or only wear it on the middle finger on the right hand? I'm a bit confused? September 11, 2020 at 11:36PM

Yeah i think thats true. I am kinda questioning to thought i would label myself allosexual if i was forced too and in a certain context. I just don't really care about actually having sex. It sounds kinda shitty but i think i like the idea more than the actual thing or maybe just the stupid idea that it means being desirable or having a deep connection. September 11, 2020 at 11:29PM

In what I think is a very funny bit of irony, a black ring worn on the right hand on any finger but the middle one can be a symbol that the person is a swinger. So about as un-ace as you can get. But the swingers’ FAQs address the issue: “Wear your black ring on any finger but the middle one. The ring finger is the natural place for the black ring, but thumb rings are cool too. A black ring worn on the middle finger of the right hand is an infrequently used symbol of asexuality. Please avoid wearing your ring on this finger as a courtesy to that community.” September 11, 2020 at 11:29PM

This is now my new title😂 September 11, 2020 at 11:27PM