So, I'm not sure how to express this but I'm going to try. If you are content and healthy being "broken", it doesn't matter what "normal" is. If you are traumatized, you should absolutely get help to deal with it, but if you are emotionally and mentally happy, then just be you. There is nothing wrong with not wanting sex with other people. Anyone who says otherwise is trying to con you, for their benefit (either explicitly or subconsciously). Don't fall for that lie. I personally feel a need to be intimate and have sex with my husband, for reasons well stated by others in this thread. But it baffles me that we as human beings have such a lack of live and let live. If you're not hurting anyone, please know that you are just fine the way you are. I wish you all the best. July 30, 2020 at 12:04AM

hey, no problem! At least I’m not alone with this, and at least you’re not alone with this! July 30, 2020 at 12:03AM

I agree with you! Desiring sex is completely fine for obvious reasons. I wish I could edit the title to clarify that I posted this in means to highlight where the op mentioned faithlessness, and as a comment suggested, even rape. It's an odd thing to say to justify bad actions over your "needs" because sex shouldn't be a big enough need to hurt somebody. But there's obviously, absolutely no shame in loving sex or just being indifferent or being disgusted altogether. Not to mention it's not like they need my opinion for validation since I'm literally ace, it's just my opinion on the asshole-y way the phrase is used July 30, 2020 at 12:01AM

yeah that's 100 percent valid, people who prefer to have sex because it strengthens their relationship is obviously fine, I posted this more for that rapey vibe of "i have needs". That's such a gross thing to say, and if it's a healthy relationship, it should be something like "I have desires" You have strong desires for sex, you're very lustful, but nobody desperately needs sex the way they need air or water. They need it to be happy which I guess when it comes to us we need garlic bread to be happy July 29, 2020 at 11:58PM

waIT I FORGOT THE FLAIR ​ ​ edit: okay I added the flair July 29, 2020 at 11:51PM

This needs to stop getting posted everywhere. Supporting violence against any group is horrible. They do horrible things, don’t get me wrong. I hope justice is properly served and they are removed from any capacity where they can harm someone else. But wishing violence upon anyone isn’t the way to go. Pedophiles are mentally ill and need to seek therapy before they commit any crimes, and posts like this don't make it any easier for someone to admit they need help. July 29, 2020 at 11:49PM

Not talking to anyone is counted as a method of torture and is used as punishment in prisons and during wars or in places like Guantanamo bay, etc. It can cause permanent psychological damage. July 29, 2020 at 11:49PM