I've been alone pretty much my whole life, and by miracle I met this person in a mental institution. We have been talking for 3~4 months now and I'm totally in love with her. We were going out and planning on dating later on since we were focussing on our mental health. One day she tells me that she doesn't want to date anymore because she doesn't think she'll ever fall in love with me. She says she loves me emotionally and romantically, but that she wants to get over those feelings since she doesn't see herself falling in love. I don't want to be insisting but I can't deal with the idea that she might get a boyfriend and I won't be spending the rest of my life by her side, I respect her choice but it hurts, I don't know what to do. I apologise for wasting your time. Submitted October 11, 2019 at 12:11AM I've been alone pretty much my whole life, and by miracle I met this person in a mental institution. We have been talking for 3~4 ...

Love is never equal. Loving someone is never give and take all the same. It's never 50/50, it's never one for one. Love is knowing that somedays, you have to be the one that loves more. The one that sets aside your worries, because it's your turn to be the pillar. It's saying I love you without expecting it to be returned right then. Love is taking turns to be there for each other, to care for each other. Love isn't fair, and it never will be. But when you carry life's burdens together, that's love and you'll be okay. Submitted October 11, 2019 at 12:13AM Love is never equal.Loving someone is never give and take all the same. It's never 50/50, it's never one for one.Love is knowing that somedays, you have to be the one that loves more. The one that sets aside your worries, because it's your turn to be the pillar. It's saying I love you without expecting it to be returned right then.Love is taking turns to be there for each othe...

I totally understand that line of reasoning, but it always felt more natural to me to be friends first and then date despite those risks. October 11, 2019 at 12:26AM

I see myself in this and I don’t like it October 11, 2019 at 12:15AM

It inherently is but it’s a good way to separate the communists from the capitalists (not anarchists but whatever). October 11, 2019 at 12:15AM

Hey thanks for your reply. It sounds almost like another commenter above you - that with romantic love you feel that infatuation feeling and you don’t get that with platonic love. Your example is interesting to me because with the romantic love you clearly had no sexual or even sensual attraction. While you do like cuddling with your platonic friends - and even your QPP. I’m still mulling that over. Were you ever infatuated with your QPP? Or something close to that? I’m just curious because you explain your QPP as someone you have more than platonic but not quite for... October 11, 2019 at 12:13AM

So my girlfriend is on a 2 week work trip on the other side of the world. Over the last 1.5 years or so since we moved in together, we've spent almost 0 actual time apart. This has been mostly due to life circumstances (we moved to a new city together, and our lives have become pretty much entirely intermingled). It was pretty obvious early on in our relationship that I'm someone who usually needs a fair amount of independence & space to be happy...while I think she's pretty happy being in near constant communication most of the time. We talked & worked through this as best we could. Eventually I sort of just got used to always being around each other after we moved in. But I honestly think lack of breathing room has taken a toll on our relationship, as we've been fighting/arguing more and more over stupid stuff. The last month has gotten especially bad with the bickering. We both agreed this work trip would be a good much-needed break from each other. In m...