I’m not an ugly guy at all, I don’t have gross habits or anything that would be a turnoff. I’ve tried dating apps, I’ve tried some girls in my school and some meet ups. I’m making this post because it seems to be a public issue, that I wasn’t aware of. A lot of girls and guys in my school ask if I have a girlfriend, my response is always “No”. Family asks me and I reply the same way, some family members even asked if I had a boyfriend. Right after I say that I don’t have one, and if I do say I never had one, they don’t believe me, they tell me I’m lying or “capping” (NYC slang), they also (girls and teachers) tell my I’m not an ugly kid so how come I don’t have one. I’m not really sure why I never/don’t have a girlfriend, I dream about the thought of having one, I notice the stares I get and all that junk, but I’m not sure why I haven’t even went on a date. Any advice? Or anything that would help or give me a better outlook? Submitted July 04, 2019 at 12:29AM I’m not an ug...

Me and this girl have gone on two dates and a third on Friday! Part of the issues is she is home with family so that is Definitely why atm she isn't talking. She seemed super nervous on our first date and some on the second. Toward the end it was really nice she seemed to open us and we held hands really cute end to an awesome night. I'm not expecting too much as I'm not amazing either at texting. She just seems really bad at try to keep a conversation going and maybe I'm over thinking it. I just hope she is as interested in me as I am with her in the moment. She asked me on the third date so Im pretty sure she has interest in me and she want to know how my day has been as well as what is going on. I just want to be sure that she care enough experience early on and what to expect. That and if someone people are just bad over text. The dates are long distance about an hour from each other. If you have other questions to help you answer just DM me. Submitted July 04,...

So for some backstory, my girlfriend and I dated for about 1 year. As for the semi abusive part, everything she did I’m not sure if she did anything maliciously, but it’s sort of common sense. She would pinch me, and telling her i don’t like it or that it hurt would not stop her. She’s spit in my face. She said she didn’t do it to he mean, but come on now. She has climbed on top of me when she was angry and started to jokingly choke me. I knew she was playing around at first but she started to tighten for a half second and i practically threw her off of me. Usually you tend to make excuses for the things your SO may do to you. I still do this at times. If you ever find yourself making excuses for your SO when they make you uncomfortable, this is a red flag. If you ever find yourself in the middle of a lot of double standards, this is a red flag. I’m not sure if I’m using the term double standards correctly, but here’s an example. My girlfriend was allowed to have a profile pictur...

Loosing interest in sex after masturbation is a normal thing, like, not being hungry after eating. Maybe you are gray ace. July 04, 2019 at 12:42AM

Hmmm, I'm not sure about romantic attraction myself. I supposedly had "crushes" on five different boys in first grade, but they were friends and people I wanted as friends. I don't think I had any sort of crush till high school. July 04, 2019 at 12:38AM

Well, I started identifying as asexual at 13, lost my virginity at 16, spent time being a sex positive asexual, and started to feel attraction at 18 (bisexual since I realized). So, idk how it works too. July 04, 2019 at 12:34AM

I would look for is how you talk about sexual attraction. I don’t mean think about what you will say before saying it. Actually, quite the opposite. It’s a great trick to see how your brain process said concept without the inference of other people. Personal Examples: 1). I was talking about how I realized I was ace, I didn’t quite know how to phrase something so I said. “I don’t know how to tell whether or not I have a libido despite having previously looked up various physical symptoms of attraction.” Let me repeat that ”physical symptoms of attraction” 2). I have another example from school. We where watching Shakespeare in Love in 9H English. Young Zac Efron played Romeo in the play parts. During his first scene, most of the girls were commenting/making various noises because of him. I was confused, I didn’t think him looking attractive this “overblown response” from the girls in my class, so I asked my friend Spencer to clarify. Me: “Okay why in the world are the other girls...