Me and this person have been friends for around a week and my friends are saying i need to ask them out. I believe that its still too soon. This person didn't know I existed until a week ago. Also idk if this related but they're pan, which i figure means that i need to be closer to the person before i can ask them out. Sorry if this doesn't make sense, first reddit post ever, zero clue how to format these things. Any advice? Submitted January 27, 2024 at 12:11AM Me and this person have been friends for around a week and my friends are saying i need to ask them out. I believe that its still too soon. This person didn't know I existed until a week ago. Also idk if this related but they're pan, which i figure means that i need to be closer to the person before i can ask them out. Sorry if this doesn't make sense, first reddit post ever, zero clue how to format these things. Any advice?

My 3 sibblings would be very confused if i said that. January 25, 2024 at 10:12PM

uwu January 25, 2024 at 10:09PM

Oh gladly January 25, 2024 at 10:09PM

I think this might be more related to trauma (any kind) than sexuality. January 25, 2024 at 10:07PM

Dating has been anything BUT smooth for me and I think I’m over it. For some slight context, I am a 5’9 black woman who only finds herself being drawn to black men and I live in an area of the world where black people and unfortunately black men that are taller than me are a minority, so unfortunately I don’t have a large pool of prospects to choose from. I’m just rattling off this. Information because I believe it’s relevant to my dating woes. I have tried my luck with a number of men but I have never managed to find someone and make things stick long term. I almost even feel like I’ve never had an official proper relationship as my first boyfriend was at 14 and we were together for a month and a half until he dumped me and then another long distance boyfriend at 17 for just 2 months and we had never met in person. I’ve slept with more men that I would like to admit and I deeply regret most of them. Plenty of “hookups” that led nowhere. They typically followed the pattern of me ca...

I still have some sensual attraction (if it is masc fictos, mostly). I crave being held quite often, but I have a lot trauma-related issues that make it hard to enjoy people's touch, and suspected Autism also throws in a wrench. January 23, 2024 at 11:28PM

Honestly some questions you just can't answer cuz you aren't even on the same axis as the scale they're using. For me I'd just put neutral because what doesn't exist cant be healthy or unhealthy. Nor responsible or irresponsible. January 23, 2024 at 11:28PM

No, I’m aroace. You can see that in my user flair 😭 January 22, 2024 at 11:43PM

me [22m] first time dating, got this [19f] number from bumble a month ago and been on 2 dates so far. she didn’t even let me kiss her on the lips only cheeks , but asking to have sex? ”i said “come spend the night” and tried calling but her phones always goes straight to voicemail when i call.she said “when” i said “rn if u wanna fuck we can watch netflix n cuddle” then ghosted?? told her i don’t wanna pressure her if she doesn’t wanna have sex yet.i text her next day asking her fav sex positions (lol) she told me.is she like tryna lead me on or something because she’s super ghosty in general. she ghosts whenever i try flirt and bring up seeing her over text aswell since it’s been over a month since we couldn’t see eachother cause she went back home for Christmas.she did 1 time ask to meet up at a park tho so idk. she said she was nervous but i’m not buying it. last text was me telling her i wanna see her this week. i will not text her again,i just wanna know if i’m acting desperate,...

We hung out 3-4 times, and then I told her I liked her, and she said I am like a brother to her, and that she thinks there is no chemistry. The I told her I do not want to stay in touch, because we do not have enough in common to be just friends. Like a common interest, or any reason to hang out without being intimate. And I do not just mean sex, I mean having intimate conversations, sharing feelings, dreams, being partners in life. I am looking for different qualities in a friendship. I told her all of this, and she convinced me to stay in touch. Mainly because I do not have any friends, and I have to start somewhere... This has been months ago. We hung out once, met a few times talking a little, but mostly, we are writing text messages or talking on the phone. The rejection still hurts a little to be honest, I still like her in some ways, I still value our phone conversations in some ways. To be clear, I am not interested in dating her anymore, I did not try to stay friends hopi...

It’s not strange, especially in ace circles. Personally I would prefer either romantic without kissing or a deep, platonic partnership too. January 19, 2024 at 11:17PM

I just watched my friend naked getting out of the bathroom naked and i see this sub January 19, 2024 at 11:07PM

I (20M) am a university student and was preparing for the exams with my friends last summer. The friend group consists 6 people and 3 of them know each other from high school. During this study period, a girl (21) (let's say Kate) that is their friend from high school but wasn't around too much since she studies different subject at a different building. After 1-2 days she started to hang out with us, one of the girls (20) (Sarah) that knows her from the high school and that is also someone I consider a good friend started to talk to me privately about how good we look together. I was very busy in that period so I said that I'm not interested in her. Even though I said that several times, she continued to tell these stuff and went even further talk about this in public. This happened nearly everyday for a month. I think it wouldn't happen if Kate wasn't happy about it. However, I said "no" and "I'm not interested" at first and kept this stan...

Don’t? January 17, 2024 at 11:23PM

that's wild. January 17, 2024 at 11:20PM

<3 January 17, 2024 at 11:20PM

Report it and just respond with ‘projection’ January 17, 2024 at 11:19PM

Nope not at all! it’s your choice how you identify. I personally only use the term queer for myself cuz my gender identity is a mess lol and I find it easier to tell people I’m queer instead of aroace. January 16, 2024 at 11:25PM

I hear a lot of times that parents know that their kids are gay pretty early on like 5-10 years old by their toy preferences, mannerisms, etc, so you don’t really have to be post-puberty to know. January 15, 2024 at 11:08PM