i am paranoid when it comes to men. how do i get over this?

i have never been in a serious relationship, i go on dates but usually never progress past a couple dates.

if i let myself catch feelings, there is usually a honeymoon phase where i think everything is perfect, i tell everyone i know about it, i feel like i've met the one. then eventually i start to pick everything apart and i get extremely paranoid about the guys i am seeing. i wonder if they are seeing other women, using me for only my body and many other issues.

if i voice these concerns the guys will always console me and try to kill my paranoia but no amount of consoling will ever help. it just builds and builds until eventually i ruin it. every. single. time.

i'm starting to think my lack of trust in other people and general paranoia means i will never get any further than two months with someone and i am really hoping that is not the case.

anyone else been through something similar and any tips on how to learn to trust the people you're with?



Submitted November 18, 2023 at 12:12AM

i have never been in a serious relationship, i go on dates but usually never progress past a couple dates. if i let myself catch feelings, there is usually a honeymoon phase where i think everything is perfect, i tell everyone i know about it, i feel like i've met the one. then eventually i start to pick everything apart and i get extremely paranoid about the guys i am seeing. i wonder if they are seeing other women, using me for only my body and many other issues.if i voice these concerns the guys will always console me and try to kill my paranoia but no amount of consoling will ever help. it just builds and builds until eventually i ruin it. every. single. time. i'm starting to think my lack of trust in other people and general paranoia means i will never get any further than two months with someone and i am really hoping that is not the case.anyone else been through something similar and any tips on how to learn to trust the people you're with?

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