How do I find a girl actually worth dating?

I’m 20M and I’ve never been In a relationship so ideally I’d like to find someone within the next couple years or so

Everyone I’ve even been with were either one night stands, casual relationships for a couple weeks or the odd tinder hookup. Ive sorta considered a relationship with a couple of these but after further reflection non of them were even close to relationship material and in fact I feel like a bit of an idiot for not picking up on the red flags sooner for those ones. On a fair few occasions they’ve even had a boyfriend which just makes me even more cautious of relationships.

I’m a good looking dude and also 6’5 and jacked which you’d think would help but it seems that I’m only able to attract the wrong type of girls. I’ve got tinder and get more than enough matches but the only ones who are eager to meet up are half naked in all their photos and I’m not really willing to message someone for weeks on end just to get a date or play the long game.

Admittedly i don’t have much game but I’m always fine approaching anyways but it seems unless a girl approaches me or is clearly giving me signals to speak to them il always get rejected. I’ve gone 0-9 or 10 on a few nights out trying to find someone who I’d like to try to get to know.

I’s there anywhere outside of nightclubs, dating apps or the gym that I could try and find someone? or could there just be an issue with the way that I present myself that might make good girls weary ? I’m also at uni which might play a part. I’m a bit concerned that there honestly might just not be many people out there for me.

Any advice on what I should do would be greatly appreciated.

Submitted June 28, 2023 at 12:14AM

I’m 20M and I’ve never been In a relationship so ideally I’d like to find someone within the next couple years or soEveryone I’ve even been with were either one night stands, casual relationships for a couple weeks or the odd tinder hookup. Ive sorta considered a relationship with a couple of these but after further reflection non of them were even close to relationship material and in fact I feel like a bit of an idiot for not picking up on the red flags sooner for those ones. On a fair few occasions they’ve even had a boyfriend which just makes me even more cautious of relationships. I’m a good looking dude and also 6’5 and jacked which you’d think would help but it seems that I’m only able to attract the wrong type of girls. I’ve got tinder and get more than enough matches but the only ones who are eager to meet up are half naked in all their photos and I’m not really willing to message someone for weeks on end just to get a date or play the long game.Admittedly i don’t have much game but I’m always fine approaching anyways but it seems unless a girl approaches me or is clearly giving me signals to speak to them il always get rejected. I’ve gone 0-9 or 10 on a few nights out trying to find someone who I’d like to try to get to know. I’s there anywhere outside of nightclubs, dating apps or the gym that I could try and find someone? or could there just be an issue with the way that I present myself that might make good girls weary ? I’m also at uni which might play a part. I’m a bit concerned that there honestly might just not be many people out there for me. Any advice on what I should do would be greatly appreciated.