Help!!!! Need Dating Advice

I (24F) matched with a guy (34-36M: don’t want to give out his exact age) (for the purpose of this post we’ll call him Chris) on Bumble on February 17th; remember the exact day because it was my friends birthday. The day we matched I was in NJ (I live on Long Island, Chris lives in one of the NYC boroughs). So I probably wouldn’t have ever matched with him if I wasn’t in NJ or NYC since we live 2 ish hours apart. We had really good conversation on Bumble, and the same day we matched he talked to me the whole 2 hour trip home from NJ. He even said how his birthday was the following week, and that “God sent this Long Island girl to him for his birthday.” After that conversation we continued texting and calling each other. We made plans to meet but he canceled 2 hours before because he had a tough day at work. We continued talking but didn’t make plans because he was moving apartments. I eventually let the conversation fizzle out because I felt that I was putting in too much effort. Even though I wanted to, I didn’t reach out to him, but still thought about him often because we really clicked on the phone. Fast forward to mid/late March, Chris likes me on Facebook dating. I decide to match with him again against all my friends advice, however I said I would not be the first one to reach out. He messaged me first, and it was something so annoying. He said something like “where have I been”!! Like he could have kept up our original conversation. I even called him out as to why he didn’t just text me bc he has my phone. He claimed he lost his phone. I give him my # again, and his first text was “miss me.” So we continue texting and calling for a week or so and then we finally make plans to meet up. He meet halfway in the Queens area, and we were out for almost 5 hours. It was an amazing first date, we kissed, and he asked when we can get together again. I replied next weekend. After I got in the car he said to text him even I got home. So I texted him once home and he said how he had such a good time. He texted me though the week, but didn’t ask about meeting up again. So trying to be confident, I asked him what he was going over the weekend on Thursday. He replied something along the lines that he was super stressed and that his ex ruined his credit. Those reasons have absolutely nothing to do with what a person is doing over the weekend. I got annoyed and texted him that “I don’t think I am what your looking for. Good luck.” He never replied to this message. This was in April and I cannot stop thinking about Chris. After this situation, I deleted all my apps and am currently still on a dating break. I still about Chris all the time, like literally ALL THE TIME. I still have his number, and want to text him so bad. But he probably deleted my #. I could re download the apps again and find him. I guess I need advice on if I can even text him again or re match with him on the apps.

Submitted June 12, 2023 at 12:15AM

I (24F) matched with a guy (34-36M: don’t want to give out his exact age) (for the purpose of this post we’ll call him Chris) on Bumble on February 17th; remember the exact day because it was my friends birthday. The day we matched I was in NJ (I live on Long Island, Chris lives in one of the NYC boroughs). So I probably wouldn’t have ever matched with him if I wasn’t in NJ or NYC since we live 2 ish hours apart. We had really good conversation on Bumble, and the same day we matched he talked to me the whole 2 hour trip home from NJ. He even said how his birthday was the following week, and that “God sent this Long Island girl to him for his birthday.” After that conversation we continued texting and calling each other. We made plans to meet but he canceled 2 hours before because he had a tough day at work. We continued talking but didn’t make plans because he was moving apartments. I eventually let the conversation fizzle out because I felt that I was putting in too much effort. Even though I wanted to, I didn’t reach out to him, but still thought about him often because we really clicked on the phone. Fast forward to mid/late March, Chris likes me on Facebook dating. I decide to match with him again against all my friends advice, however I said I would not be the first one to reach out. He messaged me first, and it was something so annoying. He said something like “where have I been”!! Like he could have kept up our original conversation. I even called him out as to why he didn’t just text me bc he has my phone. He claimed he lost his phone. I give him my # again, and his first text was “miss me.” So we continue texting and calling for a week or so and then we finally make plans to meet up. He meet halfway in the Queens area, and we were out for almost 5 hours. It was an amazing first date, we kissed, and he asked when we can get together again. I replied next weekend. After I got in the car he said to text him even I got home. So I texted him once home and he said how he had such a good time. He texted me though the week, but didn’t ask about meeting up again. So trying to be confident, I asked him what he was going over the weekend on Thursday. He replied something along the lines that he was super stressed and that his ex ruined his credit. Those reasons have absolutely nothing to do with what a person is doing over the weekend. I got annoyed and texted him that “I don’t think I am what your looking for. Good luck.” He never replied to this message. This was in April and I cannot stop thinking about Chris. After this situation, I deleted all my apps and am currently still on a dating break. I still about Chris all the time, like literally ALL THE TIME. I still have his number, and want to text him so bad. But he probably deleted my #. I could re download the apps again and find him. I guess I need advice on if I can even text him again or re match with him on the apps.