man (20M) acting distant towards me (19F) but interacts with everyone else.

hi, this is my first post to reddit. i really wasn’t going to bring this here but i have no one else to give me advice so i said, why not ask reddit.

but basically, long story short, there’s this guy who i work with that i kind of have a crush on but he doesn’t really talk to me anymore. before, he would always greet me when he came into work and say bye when he left. he’d also sometimes ask me random questions here and there.

for the past week or two he hasn’t been saying hey to me anymore or talking to me at all. he doesn’t even look at me. like if i’d walk past him or towards him, he wouldn’t even look up.

during the days, i would glance over at him and he’d be talking to one of our other coworkers. i would hear him saying hey to them when he’d walk past them or asking them how their day was going.

one time, me and my manager was talking and he had come interrupt us to ask how to refill the printer for the price tags (i work in retail). my manager said that she didn’t know since she usually didn’t use them. he goes “is it okay if i google it?” …

now, i was standing right there. not once did he look over at me and ask “hey, do you know how to do it?” he just shrugged his shoulders and asked if he could google it. and i was just like dang. he’d rather google it than to ask me for help? i mean i ain’t know how to do it, but still he didn’t even ask me when i was standing right beside her, yk? he didn’t even look my way it’s like i was invisible beside her.

idk maybe i’m being dramatic because i do like him a little.

and since i do like him (a little), it makes me kind of sad. i would like to talk him more but him acting distant towards me makes me believe he don’t like me and not in a romantic way but in a regular way.

i was also thinking…i am a bit quiet since i do struggle with social anxiety. i have been getting better since i’ve been working in customer service but it’s still a little hard for me to approach people first. if you come to me and talk, i do talk back but if you don’t i do stay quiet unless i’m comfortable around you.

so i thought maybe that’s why he doesn’t interact with me. i have two other coworkers who don’t really talk to me because of my quietness. but then i’m like well…he used to want to make conversation with me now he doesn’t so? idk i’m really confused.

i think he hates me ngl. that’s the vibe i get from him. i was trying to think of something i could’ve done to offend him or something but there’s nothing i could gather since we haven’t held many conversations.

does him acting distant mean he doesn’t like me?

Submitted May 10, 2023 at 12:10AM

hi, this is my first post to reddit. i really wasn’t going to bring this here but i have no one else to give me advice so i said, why not ask reddit. but basically, long story short, there’s this guy who i work with that i kind of have a crush on but he doesn’t really talk to me anymore. before, he would always greet me when he came into work and say bye when he left. he’d also sometimes ask me random questions here and there. for the past week or two he hasn’t been saying hey to me anymore or talking to me at all. he doesn’t even look at me. like if i’d walk past him or towards him, he wouldn’t even look up. during the days, i would glance over at him and he’d be talking to one of our other coworkers. i would hear him saying hey to them when he’d walk past them or asking them how their day was going. one time, me and my manager was talking and he had come interrupt us to ask how to refill the printer for the price tags (i work in retail). my manager said that she didn’t know since she usually didn’t use them. he goes “is it okay if i google it?” …now, i was standing right there. not once did he look over at me and ask “hey, do you know how to do it?” he just shrugged his shoulders and asked if he could google it. and i was just like dang. he’d rather google it than to ask me for help? i mean i ain’t know how to do it, but still he didn’t even ask me when i was standing right beside her, yk? he didn’t even look my way it’s like i was invisible beside her. idk maybe i’m being dramatic because i do like him a little. and since i do like him (a little), it makes me kind of sad. i would like to talk him more but him acting distant towards me makes me believe he don’t like me and not in a romantic way but in a regular way. i was also thinking…i am a bit quiet since i do struggle with social anxiety. i have been getting better since i’ve been working in customer service but it’s still a little hard for me to approach people first. if you come to me and talk, i do talk back but if you don’t i do stay quiet unless i’m comfortable around you. so i thought maybe that’s why he doesn’t interact with me. i have two other coworkers who don’t really talk to me because of my quietness. but then i’m like well…he used to want to make conversation with me now he doesn’t so? idk i’m really confused. i think he hates me ngl. that’s the vibe i get from him. i was trying to think of something i could’ve done to offend him or something but there’s nothing i could gather since we haven’t held many conversations. does him acting distant mean he doesn’t like me?