i’m not sure if i should just be friends with him instead

backstory: texted throughout the summer and fall, asked him out and went on a date just over a month ago - coffee. went on a second sort-of date yesterday - coffee and walk. he doesn’t want anything exclusive rn and he likes to date around and “meet new people” and he said he’s only gone on multiple dates with one other person in the last two weeks. he’s not amazing at texting, and between the two times i’ve seen him he’s last-minute cancelled twice. he says he’s interested he’s just very busy, i can attest that he’s genuinely busy. he, however, is very funny and i do like him a lot granted i liked him a lot more before i found out he’s sort of seeing someone else as well.

my stance: i lost a fair amount of interest in him after learning he had gone of multiple dates with another girl after we went out and while we had been talking. i don’t think it’s outrageous to date around, it’s normal, but i feel like multiple dates with multiple people is a bit strange. i still find him funny and had a good time seeing him again but i’m definitely not as into him as i was before. he’s also a pretty good-natured person, didn’t try to hide the fact he’s just feeling stuff out, i was just confused because it felt strange to agree to a second date if he’s going on dates with other people.

my question for you all: should i a) keep trying to “date” b) just be friends - i’m totally fine with this option but i’d prefer to make the choice myself instead of being told later down the line that he’s not really interested and wants to be friends or c) try for a fwb situation. fwb would entail pretty much just that idk maybe hangout every now and then. he’s attractive enough that i’d be interested but my feelings aren’t strong enough that i’d become attached. basically, i’m content with all three options but i want to know what other people would choose if they were in my position.

thank you!

Submitted April 04, 2023 at 12:14AM

backstory: texted throughout the summer and fall, asked him out and went on a date just over a month ago - coffee. went on a second sort-of date yesterday - coffee and walk. he doesn’t want anything exclusive rn and he likes to date around and “meet new people” and he said he’s only gone on multiple dates with one other person in the last two weeks. he’s not amazing at texting, and between the two times i’ve seen him he’s last-minute cancelled twice. he says he’s interested he’s just very busy, i can attest that he’s genuinely busy. he, however, is very funny and i do like him a lot granted i liked him a lot more before i found out he’s sort of seeing someone else as well.my stance: i lost a fair amount of interest in him after learning he had gone of multiple dates with another girl after we went out and while we had been talking. i don’t think it’s outrageous to date around, it’s normal, but i feel like multiple dates with multiple people is a bit strange. i still find him funny and had a good time seeing him again but i’m definitely not as into him as i was before. he’s also a pretty good-natured person, didn’t try to hide the fact he’s just feeling stuff out, i was just confused because it felt strange to agree to a second date if he’s going on dates with other people.my question for you all: should i a) keep trying to “date” b) just be friends - i’m totally fine with this option but i’d prefer to make the choice myself instead of being told later down the line that he’s not really interested and wants to be friends or c) try for a fwb situation. fwb would entail pretty much just that idk maybe hangout every now and then. he’s attractive enough that i’d be interested but my feelings aren’t strong enough that i’d become attached. basically, i’m content with all three options but i want to know what other people would choose if they were in my position.thank you!