Why do narcs always try to come back?

It seems like I always attract narcissists. I’ve had a narcissist female friend and she was insanely disgusting towards me, a trauma dumper, and envious of me even though I helped her at her lowest and after I had enough of her shit I blocked her. And never looked back, Months later, she kept trying to hit me up on my social medias I never even told her about. Saying a bunch of nonsense and bullshit lies. Exactly a year later she tried to hit me up again! So fucking creepy. Anyway, I recently was talking to this guy online that I thought had chemistry with, but always on the phone he he would name call me, like say “dumb bitch”, “you’re dumb” and the funny thing is he would say I was his soulmate the first few days we talked and my narc female friend would say me and her were soulmates I guess “friend soulmates” which I knew was absolute bullshit because she would cheat on her boyfriend like crazy. Anyway this guy, the first few days me and him start talking he’s like oh we’re soulmates. Blah blah blah, I love you, which those words mean nothing to me Im an action person I don’t care about words lmao never did. Im going along with it because I think it’s hilarious and I actually did like him I guess but Im always skeptical, anyway 3 weeks after us talking he would randomly just be like “send me money” on the phone and it was just so weird, then he would be like “I’m more intelligent than you” and I remember my narcissist female friend would always try to compare herself to me it was so weird. So this guy, after the last convo I had with him on the phone it was just so off, he lives somewhere completely different from me and I’m in the US, he owns his apartment there in his foreign country and we’re both young like the same age and I was like “how much was your apartment” and he said “why does that matter” and other simple stuff I would ask he would just be super rude and say “none of your business” I started to distance myself because I’m thinking ok he clearly doesn’t even like me because I never even had a guy be like that towards me it was just such a turn off and grossed me out, he then I guess noticed I wasn’t texting him much anymore the last few days so he asks me is there anything bothering you and I tell him well “you never ever ask how I’m doing and you just say dumb bitch on the phone all the time and send money” he then says “oh I was joking about you sending money and dumb bitch “ and I’m like huh .. in my head I’m just like dude if you even really like a girl you’re not gonna say shit like that. Weird as fuck. So guess what, a few days after I told him why I was just distant he GHOSTS me for 4 days which I don’t even give a fuck didn’t even message him during that time. He hits me up out of nowhere like “Hey” and I’m like so dry like “hi” and he’s like “how u doin we haven’t talked in a while” I’m over here like lol this guy is so pathetic because after I opened up to you, you ghost me and for the first time ask me how I’m doing after ghosting me😂 I immediately got so pissed off after reading the “how u doin” text because 1. this idiot knows I’m over it, 2. It’s not even like you really even give a fuck how I’m doing since you ghosted me, 3. I was already weirded out by him so this just confirmed everything lmao, then the “we haven’t talked in a while” maybe because you didn’t respond? Texting me so casually and nonchalantly. Narcs are losers who swear they’re so slick. I legit respond the 💀 emoji at the “we haven’t talked in a while text” and straight up blocked him for good in early February of this year when we first started talking near Christmas of 2022. Anyway a week goes by this idiot adds me on my snap from another account asking me “why did you block me everywhere” and I’m just like just delete my pics I deleted yours” because there’s nothing to even talk about you know why I blocked you fuck out of here. He then finds this Reddit account that I never even told him about and says I don’t know if this is you but I miss you blah blah blah and playing victim and it’s just giving me flashbacks of the narcs I knew in the past. Treating people like trash, then start stalking them and being obsessed with them after they cut you off. I know he found my Reddit because I told him one of my favorite movies was Trainspotting which is the name of my other social media he knew me from. Honestly whatever it’s just creepy how they all are the same.

Submitted March 09, 2023 at 11:59PM

It seems like I always attract narcissists. I’ve had a narcissist female friend and she was insanely disgusting towards me, a trauma dumper, and envious of me even though I helped her at her lowest and after I had enough of her shit I blocked her. And never looked back, Months later, she kept trying to hit me up on my social medias I never even told her about. Saying a bunch of nonsense and bullshit lies. Exactly a year later she tried to hit me up again! So fucking creepy. Anyway, I recently was talking to this guy online that I thought had chemistry with, but always on the phone he he would name call me, like say “dumb bitch”, “you’re dumb” and the funny thing is he would say I was his soulmate the first few days we talked and my narc female friend would say me and her were soulmates I guess “friend soulmates” which I knew was absolute bullshit because she would cheat on her boyfriend like crazy. Anyway this guy, the first few days me and him start talking he’s like oh we’re soulmates. Blah blah blah, I love you, which those words mean nothing to me Im an action person I don’t care about words lmao never did. Im going along with it because I think it’s hilarious and I actually did like him I guess but Im always skeptical, anyway 3 weeks after us talking he would randomly just be like “send me money” on the phone and it was just so weird, then he would be like “I’m more intelligent than you” and I remember my narcissist female friend would always try to compare herself to me it was so weird. So this guy, after the last convo I had with him on the phone it was just so off, he lives somewhere completely different from me and I’m in the US, he owns his apartment there in his foreign country and we’re both young like the same age and I was like “how much was your apartment” and he said “why does that matter” and other simple stuff I would ask he would just be super rude and say “none of your business” I started to distance myself because I’m thinking ok he clearly doesn’t even like me because I never even had a guy be like that towards me it was just such a turn off and grossed me out, he then I guess noticed I wasn’t texting him much anymore the last few days so he asks me is there anything bothering you and I tell him well “you never ever ask how I’m doing and you just say dumb bitch on the phone all the time and send money” he then says “oh I was joking about you sending money and dumb bitch “ and I’m like huh .. in my head I’m just like dude if you even really like a girl you’re not gonna say shit like that. Weird as fuck. So guess what, a few days after I told him why I was just distant he GHOSTS me for 4 days which I don’t even give a fuck didn’t even message him during that time. He hits me up out of nowhere like “Hey” and I’m like so dry like “hi” and he’s like “how u doin we haven’t talked in a while” I’m over here like lol this guy is so pathetic because after I opened up to you, you ghost me and for the first time ask me how I’m doing after ghosting me😂 I immediately got so pissed off after reading the “how u doin” text because 1. this idiot knows I’m over it, 2. It’s not even like you really even give a fuck how I’m doing since you ghosted me, 3. I was already weirded out by him so this just confirmed everything lmao, then the “we haven’t talked in a while” maybe because you didn’t respond? Texting me so casually and nonchalantly. Narcs are losers who swear they’re so slick. I legit respond the 💀 emoji at the “we haven’t talked in a while text” and straight up blocked him for good in early February of this year when we first started talking near Christmas of 2022. Anyway a week goes by this idiot adds me on my snap from another account asking me “why did you block me everywhere” and I’m just like just delete my pics I deleted yours” because there’s nothing to even talk about you know why I blocked you fuck out of here. He then finds this Reddit account that I never even told him about and says I don’t know if this is you but I miss you blah blah blah and playing victim and it’s just giving me flashbacks of the narcs I knew in the past. Treating people like trash, then start stalking them and being obsessed with them after they cut you off. I know he found my Reddit because I told him one of my favorite movies was Trainspotting which is the name of my other social media he knew me from. Honestly whatever it’s just creepy how they all are the same.