saying I love you to someone you cannot be with. help!!

This is a long story but I'll try to keep it as short as possible.

I met this person a few months ago and we had a passionate and intimate fling. After that, he wanted to stay friends to not catch feelings, as he was moving back to his country soon. During the time we stayed friends, we got really close and I fell in love with him. He knew I still liked him, but he didn't know how strong my feelings actually were. I had a hard time but it was better to have him as a friend than to not have him in my life at all. After a few months, he finally left.

Now a couple of months have passed and we still talk and keep in touch, sometimes we even call. I realized how much I still love him and how special he became to me. I'm trying to move on but to be honest, to love someone this way is a beautiful feeling I've never experienced before and I'm happy and grateful to feel this way towards him.

But now my question. I can't stop thinking if I should tell him how I feel. I'd definitely feel better getting it out of my chest but I'm scared something will change. I don't want to make him uncomfortable or to pull away. In other words, I don't want to ruin the friendship.

I'm pretty sure he still likes me somehow, maybe his feelings are not as strong as mine, but I can tell there's still something going on. We are far from each other (different continents), so there's no way we could be together in a near future, and neither of us would like to do long distance.

Should I still tell my feelings to this person?



Submitted March 08, 2023 at 12:08AM

This is a long story but I'll try to keep it as short as possible.I met this person a few months ago and we had a passionate and intimate fling. After that, he wanted to stay friends to not catch feelings, as he was moving back to his country soon. During the time we stayed friends, we got really close and I fell in love with him. He knew I still liked him, but he didn't know how strong my feelings actually were. I had a hard time but it was better to have him as a friend than to not have him in my life at all. After a few months, he finally left.Now a couple of months have passed and we still talk and keep in touch, sometimes we even call. I realized how much I still love him and how special he became to me. I'm trying to move on but to be honest, to love someone this way is a beautiful feeling I've never experienced before and I'm happy and grateful to feel this way towards him.But now my question. I can't stop thinking if I should tell him how I feel. I'd definitely feel better getting it out of my chest but I'm scared something will change. I don't want to make him uncomfortable or to pull away. In other words, I don't want to ruin the friendship.I'm pretty sure he still likes me somehow, maybe his feelings are not as strong as mine, but I can tell there's still something going on. We are far from each other (different continents), so there's no way we could be together in a near future, and neither of us would like to do long distance.Should I still tell my feelings to this person?
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