Me (24F) I am the bad guy to (20F) gf because I want comfort

Ok so I’m 24 my gf is 20 and she has depression always have since she was a kid. Me on the other hand it depends on what happened in the moment for me to be depressed like breaks up etc. well my dad passed away a month ago and I already haven’t even grieved my mom who passed away a year ago my dad became sick and he just wanted to give up to be with my mom last year was trying for him and I. So I’m just depressed af ok like the two people who have been there in ever step of my life are just gone. Well my gf tells me I can talk to her about anything but In reality she doesn’t want to she said it’s drowning her when she is doing better with her mental health (even though that’s a lie she isn’t) she just doesn’t want to hear it. Which hurts like hell to hear cause you know all I want is some comfort like a gave her when she was going through something I was always there for her. It just hurts that I feel like I can’t just vent then get some love somehow I’m the bad guy and she convinced her parents that she is fine but she isn’t but she told them about me and they completely agree that I’m just bad for her. It sucks cause the don’t know their daughter and what I have done to help both of us I’ve tried to get them to like me but atp they won’t now. Am I really this horrible person for trying to get someone to be there for me like I am this has been the story of my life the funny part is the only people who were there for me are gone. Am I wrong for coming to her? Should I just I keep things to myself for now on or just break it off? How do I handle this?



Submitted March 07, 2023 at 01:08AM

Ok so I’m 24 my gf is 20 and she has depression always have since she was a kid. Me on the other hand it depends on what happened in the moment for me to be depressed like breaks up etc. well my dad passed away a month ago and I already haven’t even grieved my mom who passed away a year ago my dad became sick and he just wanted to give up to be with my mom last year was trying for him and I. So I’m just depressed af ok like the two people who have been there in ever step of my life are just gone. Well my gf tells me I can talk to her about anything but In reality she doesn’t want to she said it’s drowning her when she is doing better with her mental health (even though that’s a lie she isn’t) she just doesn’t want to hear it. Which hurts like hell to hear cause you know all I want is some comfort like a gave her when she was going through something I was always there for her. It just hurts that I feel like I can’t just vent then get some love somehow I’m the bad guy and she convinced her parents that she is fine but she isn’t but she told them about me and they completely agree that I’m just bad for her. It sucks cause the don’t know their daughter and what I have done to help both of us I’ve tried to get them to like me but atp they won’t now. Am I really this horrible person for trying to get someone to be there for me like I am this has been the story of my life the funny part is the only people who were there for me are gone. Am I wrong for coming to her? Should I just I keep things to myself for now on or just break it off? How do I handle this?
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