I'm afraid of losing her

It's been almost 3 months since I met a woman, we still don't know each other very well but at this point we already have several things in common and it's impossible for me to give up just like that. I met her at a party but we didn't talk, I was just sitting next to her where we ended up holding hands and I was almost asleep on her shoulder kkkk. we were only like that for 15 to 20 minutes, then she left. She is a girl that attracted me before, but even though I had her insta, I had never sent her anything because I'm shy and it's rare to do that, but I don't think she even knew who I was. She's from my school and whenever she passed and passed close to me I couldn't not look. But anyway, when I got home from the party I decided I was going to text her and so I did. 15 days later I had lunch with her. I think she liked it, even though we were both shy, which made me nervous. A few days later I ran into her and she smiled, we greeted each other and she said we had to arrange something. But we went to lunch at school, where we only have 1 hour. Then it gets difficult, there was almost only time to eat. I wanted something more like going to dinner with her but it is difficult because I live in one city, she in another and the school is in the city that is in between. We simply live almost a 20 minute drive from each other. It's been a while since the 2 of us got our driving license but it still takes some time. So we were never together again because as we are shy we don't like to be together at school but we talk several days a week but short conversations. In fact, it has always been rare to have long conversations because there is always someone who is either busy or because she doesn't use her cell phone so much, she ends up not seeing the messages. I know that if I had her phone number she would respond more. But I don't know how to ask, I need context, I'm not going to go to her dm and ask for her number just because I'm too shy for that. The problem is that I like her and I would love to be with her now. I don't think I've ever been so happy as I am since I met her, whenever I think of her I smile like I never have. I know something she wants and I'm going to give it to her, it's the new zelda game, but it only comes out in May which doesn't help much, the only good thing is that maybe in May at least one of us will have a letter of driving and I already find it easier to give the gift. She said she was saving money to buy the game. I don't want to lose her for anything in this world. I think that's what I really have to say.

What do you think I should do?

Do I ask her to lunch without context, just and directly because I want to? (It's just that I don't know if it's worth it because it's 1 hour right)

Do I tell her how I feel? (That I like her but I'm too shy to be with her at school (for now) and lunch time is too short to be with her)

I ask for her phone number with the context of her responding more and faster?

Or do I simply wait for one of us to have a driver's license and ask him out?

I don't want to make mistakes but I want to get closer to her. I'm afraid of losing it by taking too long.

Thanks for the help.

Submitted January 17, 2023 at 12:14AM

It's been almost 3 months since I met a woman, we still don't know each other very well but at this point we already have several things in common and it's impossible for me to give up just like that. I met her at a party but we didn't talk, I was just sitting next to her where we ended up holding hands and I was almost asleep on her shoulder kkkk. we were only like that for 15 to 20 minutes, then she left. She is a girl that attracted me before, but even though I had her insta, I had never sent her anything because I'm shy and it's rare to do that, but I don't think she even knew who I was. She's from my school and whenever she passed and passed close to me I couldn't not look. But anyway, when I got home from the party I decided I was going to text her and so I did. 15 days later I had lunch with her. I think she liked it, even though we were both shy, which made me nervous. A few days later I ran into her and she smiled, we greeted each other and she said we had to arrange something. But we went to lunch at school, where we only have 1 hour. Then it gets difficult, there was almost only time to eat. I wanted something more like going to dinner with her but it is difficult because I live in one city, she in another and the school is in the city that is in between. We simply live almost a 20 minute drive from each other. It's been a while since the 2 of us got our driving license but it still takes some time. So we were never together again because as we are shy we don't like to be together at school but we talk several days a week but short conversations. In fact, it has always been rare to have long conversations because there is always someone who is either busy or because she doesn't use her cell phone so much, she ends up not seeing the messages. I know that if I had her phone number she would respond more. But I don't know how to ask, I need context, I'm not going to go to her dm and ask for her number just because I'm too shy for that. The problem is that I like her and I would love to be with her now. I don't think I've ever been so happy as I am since I met her, whenever I think of her I smile like I never have. I know something she wants and I'm going to give it to her, it's the new zelda game, but it only comes out in May which doesn't help much, the only good thing is that maybe in May at least one of us will have a letter of driving and I already find it easier to give the gift. She said she was saving money to buy the game. I don't want to lose her for anything in this world. I think that's what I really have to say.What do you think I should do?Do I ask her to lunch without context, just and directly because I want to? (It's just that I don't know if it's worth it because it's 1 hour right)Do I tell her how I feel? (That I like her but I'm too shy to be with her at school (for now) and lunch time is too short to be with her)I ask for her phone number with the context of her responding more and faster?Or do I simply wait for one of us to have a driver's license and ask him out?I don't want to make mistakes but I want to get closer to her. I'm afraid of losing it by taking too long.Thanks for the help.