He broke up with me and yet still wants us to be more than friends, just not in a relationship. Should I welcome that?

The relationship, 31/M, 34/F started as study partners and we talked online for several months. We met personally after 4 months and things became intimate right then and there. We didn’t realize we already were falling for each other that time. After several weeks, he decided to ask me if I was ok to be in this relationship as he already thought I felt the same way that we were already a couple. I honestly thought we were moving too fast but he was already saying he’s not planning to meet anyone else but me so I agreed. We were back to being in a long distance relationship as I had to go back to my country.

Moving forward to this month, I got back and met with him. He stayed with me for a week and we got to know each other well. Unfortunately, there are differences in personalities and perspectives, made us fight a lot and have misunderstandings. Yesterday, he asked for some time to think if this is going to work in the future as we were both starting to settle down in a foreign country and this might end in a long distance thing, which is tough. He also said he cant stand fighting all the time and living together given our differences. After he left, he called and broke things up saying he can’t be a couple but he wants us to remain sweet and be friends. He still wants us to meet and talk just not be in a couple because of the future. I already had a feeling it was heading that direction and it only took him less than a day to think.

I agree this is tough to maintain in the future but I was willing to work things out and give us a try yet, he just wants us to be friends, still calling me darling. We both love each other obviously but him thinking of the future is what’s made him end it.

Should i continue talking to him and allow him to call me babe? Would appreciate your thoughts. Thanks🙏🏻



Submitted January 14, 2023 at 11:48PM

The relationship, 31/M, 34/F started as study partners and we talked online for several months. We met personally after 4 months and things became intimate right then and there. We didn’t realize we already were falling for each other that time. After several weeks, he decided to ask me if I was ok to be in this relationship as he already thought I felt the same way that we were already a couple. I honestly thought we were moving too fast but he was already saying he’s not planning to meet anyone else but me so I agreed. We were back to being in a long distance relationship as I had to go back to my country.Moving forward to this month, I got back and met with him. He stayed with me for a week and we got to know each other well. Unfortunately, there are differences in personalities and perspectives, made us fight a lot and have misunderstandings. Yesterday, he asked for some time to think if this is going to work in the future as we were both starting to settle down in a foreign country and this might end in a long distance thing, which is tough. He also said he cant stand fighting all the time and living together given our differences. After he left, he called and broke things up saying he can’t be a couple but he wants us to remain sweet and be friends. He still wants us to meet and talk just not be in a couple because of the future. I already had a feeling it was heading that direction and it only took him less than a day to think.I agree this is tough to maintain in the future but I was willing to work things out and give us a try yet, he just wants us to be friends, still calling me darling. We both love each other obviously but him thinking of the future is what’s made him end it.Should i continue talking to him and allow him to call me babe? Would appreciate your thoughts. Thanks🙏🏻
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