Am I wrong?

I’ve (M24) with a girl (F22) for a couple months now. Asked her out after a 1.5 months a couple weeks ago. Things were going smoothly, no fightin, no arguing, nothing. and she came over for Christmas dinner yesterday with my fam and gave gifts to everyone. I’ve seen her parents and fam on FaceTime too.

Today I was driving her home, used her phone maps, and all of the sudden there was a message from this guy that contained “blah blah blah 😘 …” on her phone. I said nothing until we got to her place. Then I asked her about it and that I wanted to see the convo. Normally I don’t ask but I feel like I have a right to when I see that to confirm there’s nothing else going on. She told me that’s her ex-coworker that was friends with everyone and sent every girl those kinds of messages. Well she refused to show me, instead she was trying to call that guy or her friend so they could explain the situation or something… I said no I want to see the convo and not talk to anyone. Then 30 mins goes by she still doesn’t show me and instead shows me “clips” of the texts that doesn’t contain anything. She said she can’t show me the convo bc it’s her right to privacy. Well even during the convo there’s another message from this dude that said something like “I can’t believe you’re ignoring me after all I’ve done for you” or something like that. After I’ve seen that I gave her the ultimatum to show me the whole convo or get out of my car. She kept delaying showing me, I never physically or verbally abused her. I was calm and assertive with my reactions and just said that I’m thinking you’re cheating when you can’t show me it. Eventually I told her to get the fuck out of my car and if she closed it without showing me, we would be done. So she got out. I never seen anything suspicious before since she’s always FaceTiming me or coming to my place. Am I wrong to think she’s cheating ? I fully broke up with her and she barely cares to explain it over text. Instead, it’s just “I didn’t cheat”. No there was no hard evidence that she was cheating but for me not showing me the convo after seeing that text is a big red flag.



Submitted December 27, 2022 at 12:12AM

I’ve (M24) with a girl (F22) for a couple months now. Asked her out after a 1.5 months a couple weeks ago. Things were going smoothly, no fightin, no arguing, nothing. and she came over for Christmas dinner yesterday with my fam and gave gifts to everyone. I’ve seen her parents and fam on FaceTime too.Today I was driving her home, used her phone maps, and all of the sudden there was a message from this guy that contained “blah blah blah 😘 …” on her phone. I said nothing until we got to her place. Then I asked her about it and that I wanted to see the convo. Normally I don’t ask but I feel like I have a right to when I see that to confirm there’s nothing else going on. She told me that’s her ex-coworker that was friends with everyone and sent every girl those kinds of messages. Well she refused to show me, instead she was trying to call that guy or her friend so they could explain the situation or something… I said no I want to see the convo and not talk to anyone. Then 30 mins goes by she still doesn’t show me and instead shows me “clips” of the texts that doesn’t contain anything. She said she can’t show me the convo bc it’s her right to privacy. Well even during the convo there’s another message from this dude that said something like “I can’t believe you’re ignoring me after all I’ve done for you” or something like that. After I’ve seen that I gave her the ultimatum to show me the whole convo or get out of my car. She kept delaying showing me, I never physically or verbally abused her. I was calm and assertive with my reactions and just said that I’m thinking you’re cheating when you can’t show me it. Eventually I told her to get the fuck out of my car and if she closed it without showing me, we would be done. So she got out. I never seen anything suspicious before since she’s always FaceTiming me or coming to my place. Am I wrong to think she’s cheating ? I fully broke up with her and she barely cares to explain it over text. Instead, it’s just “I didn’t cheat”. No there was no hard evidence that she was cheating but for me not showing me the convo after seeing that text is a big red flag.
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