Is he interested or just stringing me along?

I decided to call it quits with a guy [34] I was seeing [30] casually. He wanted exclusive FWB and I wanted actual dates. We parted really well and even did a small gift exchange of things we had already bought each other right after splitting. He told me to let him know if I ever wanted to hang out as friends. I kicked this back to him because if he had actually ever been willing to hangout in addition to sex, I would have kept seeing him. Didn't hear anything back, which I wasn't suprised by.

Cut to a bit later. Was open to a hookup. Messaged him good luck on his upcoming vasectomy in a few days and basically indicated I'd be interested in hooking up if he was.... He messaged back that he was on no activity orders on the days leading up to the vasectomy but after recovery he'd be interested in celebrating. Now, having had an ex have a vasectomy while I was with him, I didn't fully believe this because there was no restriction leading up to the vasectomy and hadn't heard the same from any of my friends. Didn't pry into it or really follow up.

Day after the procedure he texts me to let me know is recovery is going well and makes a joke about vasectomies. This is really odd because 1) guy isn't much of a texter and 2) ...he's initiating a conversation. We exchanged a couple texts - which is usually the extent of his texting when we actually were together.

Is he actually interested in a hookup after recovery? Just stringing me along? The being contacted by him for no real reason is just... odd.



Submitted August 31, 2022 at 11:59PM

I decided to call it quits with a guy [34] I was seeing [30] casually. He wanted exclusive FWB and I wanted actual dates. We parted really well and even did a small gift exchange of things we had already bought each other right after splitting. He told me to let him know if I ever wanted to hang out as friends. I kicked this back to him because if he had actually ever been willing to hangout in addition to sex, I would have kept seeing him. Didn't hear anything back, which I wasn't suprised by.Cut to a bit later. Was open to a hookup. Messaged him good luck on his upcoming vasectomy in a few days and basically indicated I'd be interested in hooking up if he was.... He messaged back that he was on no activity orders on the days leading up to the vasectomy but after recovery he'd be interested in celebrating. Now, having had an ex have a vasectomy while I was with him, I didn't fully believe this because there was no restriction leading up to the vasectomy and hadn't heard the same from any of my friends. Didn't pry into it or really follow up.Day after the procedure he texts me to let me know is recovery is going well and makes a joke about vasectomies. This is really odd because 1) guy isn't much of a texter and 2) ...he's initiating a conversation. We exchanged a couple texts - which is usually the extent of his texting when we actually were together.Is he actually interested in a hookup after recovery? Just stringing me along? The being contacted by him for no real reason is just... odd.
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