I (23F) don’t like bfs (25M) values. How can I fix him? Relationship of 4 months

My (25F) bf (25M) has me conflicted because of his values. (Relationship of 4 months)

Conflicted over my bfs traits

Opinions on my [23F] bf [25M]?

He’s probably a 5/10. Is from Oklahoma, very manly.

Makes $60,000 a year in some kind of construction job.

Works 5AM-8:00PM and comes home around 9PM. Works 5 days a week.

Has a house that I live with him in.

He’s very capable of protecting me, he trained Judo before getting this job a year ago.

Here’s some things I don’t like though:

He thinks it’s a red flag if a woman in her 20s hasn’t had a job before

Thinks my friend[21F] had it coming when she slapped a teenage boy at the park and he slapped her back.

Says he wouldn’t date a “fat” woman (example: 5’4” woman weighing above 160.

Gets mad at me for “not doing anything around the house” it’s his house and I don’t feel like I’m supposed to be his mom.

Thinks I should get a job if I don’t want to be a pickmeisha who does everything for him.

He doesn’t pay any attention to me when he gets home and just goes to sleep.

Also gross. Sometimes he won’t even take off any of his work clothes (including his boots) before going to bed on week days.

Doesn’t like to do anything on weekends “let me enjoy my off days”

He wants to be an army ranger (I don’t know why anyone would want to serve our government)

Won’t stop paying for his mom’s surgeries.

He’s short (5’5”)

Also doesn’t like me buying nice shoes when his boots are $200

TLDR he’s a bit of a conservative dick



Submitted August 28, 2022 at 12:14AM

My (25F) bf (25M) has me conflicted because of his values. (Relationship of 4 months)Conflicted over my bfs traitsOpinions on my [23F] bf [25M]?He’s probably a 5/10. Is from Oklahoma, very manly.Makes $60,000 a year in some kind of construction job.Works 5AM-8:00PM and comes home around 9PM. Works 5 days a week.Has a house that I live with him in.He’s very capable of protecting me, he trained Judo before getting this job a year ago.Here’s some things I don’t like though:He thinks it’s a red flag if a woman in her 20s hasn’t had a job beforeThinks my friend[21F] had it coming when she slapped a teenage boy at the park and he slapped her back.Says he wouldn’t date a “fat” woman (example: 5’4” woman weighing above 160.Gets mad at me for “not doing anything around the house” it’s his house and I don’t feel like I’m supposed to be his mom.Thinks I should get a job if I don’t want to be a pickmeisha who does everything for him.He doesn’t pay any attention to me when he gets home and just goes to sleep.Also gross. Sometimes he won’t even take off any of his work clothes (including his boots) before going to bed on week days.Doesn’t like to do anything on weekends “let me enjoy my off days”He wants to be an army ranger (I don’t know why anyone would want to serve our government)Won’t stop paying for his mom’s surgeries.He’s short (5’5”)Also doesn’t like me buying nice shoes when his boots are $200TLDR he’s a bit of a conservative dick
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