How do I not fall in love?

How do I keep myself from falling in love with someone I am forced to spend hours on end with?

I recently landed my dream job, I became a barber, all thanks to a young woman who saw the talent in me and my passion for barbering, I landed the job only thanks to her. So I am naturally very grateful. Opening days were kinda rough, we had to work 12 hour shifts 7 days in a row. We got to spend all that time together and bonded pretty well. So now the thing is, I think I'm starting to catch feelings for her, which is not a thing I want. I don't think it would be a good idea to start a relationship with someone who you're working with, even more so if the person is your boss. She managed to teach me a lot in those past few days, I made a lot of progress. Now, the thing is, she's got a boyfriend and she's constantly complaining about him not taking care of her, and I can see how he's treating her when he comes to pick her up from work or when he just drops by. Having to listen to that all day and having to answer questions like "Would you treat a lady like that" or "do you think that's normal" has really got me confused. Even though there might be some chemistry between us, I don't think it's a great idea for me to fall in love with her. I got a second chance at life, I was considering suicide and this job really gave me a second breath, so i really don't wanna lose it because of some unsuccesful romance. She told me yesterday, that she wants to mostly work with me, because she loves working with me, which makes it virtually almost impossible for me to distance myself from her. And I couldn't distance myself from her even if I wanted, because she's teaching me all she knows about barbering. I won't be getting this chance ever again in my life. Please give me some advice on how not to fuck my life up.

TL;DR
I don't want to fall in love with my boss because I don't wanna lose my dreamjob, but it's hard since she's so nice to me and she seems to keep finding ways to get closer to me.



Submitted January 18, 2022 at 02:06AM

How do I keep myself from falling in love with someone I am forced to spend hours on end with?I recently landed my dream job, I became a barber, all thanks to a young woman who saw the talent in me and my passion for barbering, I landed the job only thanks to her. So I am naturally very grateful. Opening days were kinda rough, we had to work 12 hour shifts 7 days in a row. We got to spend all that time together and bonded pretty well. So now the thing is, I think I'm starting to catch feelings for her, which is not a thing I want. I don't think it would be a good idea to start a relationship with someone who you're working with, even more so if the person is your boss. She managed to teach me a lot in those past few days, I made a lot of progress. Now, the thing is, she's got a boyfriend and she's constantly complaining about him not taking care of her, and I can see how he's treating her when he comes to pick her up from work or when he just drops by. Having to listen to that all day and having to answer questions like "Would you treat a lady like that" or "do you think that's normal" has really got me confused. Even though there might be some chemistry between us, I don't think it's a great idea for me to fall in love with her. I got a second chance at life, I was considering suicide and this job really gave me a second breath, so i really don't wanna lose it because of some unsuccesful romance. She told me yesterday, that she wants to mostly work with me, because she loves working with me, which makes it virtually almost impossible for me to distance myself from her. And I couldn't distance myself from her even if I wanted, because she's teaching me all she knows about barbering. I won't be getting this chance ever again in my life. Please give me some advice on how not to fuck my life up.TL;DRI don't want to fall in love with my boss because I don't wanna lose my dreamjob, but it's hard since she's so nice to me and she seems to keep finding ways to get closer to me.
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