/u/askwomenthrowaway23 on Why do people think Asexuality needs "fixed" and WHYYY do they think PORN is the way to succeed in that? 😡

I’ve thought about this.

Many peoples’ experience involves sexual repression and an environment telling them sex is evil. If you don’t know anything about sexualities beyond “straight,” “gay,” “lesbian,” and “bisexual,” and especially if you’re used to a repressive environment, our true lack of interest can look like pretending to have no interest due to a repressive environment. Sex-repulsion may look like “sex is evil and disgusting” in the moral sense and not in a “this is just my natural reaction, not a moral judgment” sense. And if you hate that repressive environment, you might have negative associations with repressed people. And if the other refuses to “see the light” and acts disgusted, that can’t be their true reaction, everyone loves sex and they’re just a prude pretending not to like it to seem pure! Their no isn’t really a no! And even if it is, they deserve to be punished with sexuality for making me repress mine! (That’s not how it works. Even if it was just a prude and not an asexual, showing them sexual pictures without their consent is still a no-no! Consent doesn’t ever stop mattering.) I won’t listen to their claims of it being a sexuality, they’ve just found a new avenue to try to legitimize their repressive backwards moral righteousness. I won’t be fooled. Nevermind that asexuality has no affiliation with any religious groups and many complaints within the community are about how religious groups treat them…

Loss of sexual desire is an actual medical problem for allosexuals, at least according to the fast-spoken list of side effects in a pharmaceutical ad. I think this helps contribute to people assuming there's something wrong with us: someone who does experience sexual desire is likely to think that if they entered a state of having no sexual desire whatsoever, they'd be experiencing a medical problem. We naturally exist in that state.





May 14, 2021 at 11:55PM

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