Dating has been anything BUT smooth for me and I think I’m over it. For some slight context, I am a 5’9 black woman who only finds herself being drawn to black men and I live in an area of the world where black people and unfortunately black men that are taller than me are a minority, so unfortunately I don’t have a large pool of prospects to choose from. I’m just rattling off this. Information because I believe it’s relevant to my dating woes. I have tried my luck with a number of men but I have never managed to find someone and make things stick long term. I almost even feel like I’ve never had an official proper relationship as my first boyfriend was at 14 and we were together for a month and a half until he dumped me and then another long distance boyfriend at 17 for just 2 months and we had never met in person. I’ve slept with more men that I would like to admit and I deeply regret most of them. Plenty of “hookups” that led nowhere. They typically followed the pattern of me ca...

I still have some sensual attraction (if it is masc fictos, mostly). I crave being held quite often, but I have a lot trauma-related issues that make it hard to enjoy people's touch, and suspected Autism also throws in a wrench. January 23, 2024 at 11:28PM

Honestly some questions you just can't answer cuz you aren't even on the same axis as the scale they're using. For me I'd just put neutral because what doesn't exist cant be healthy or unhealthy. Nor responsible or irresponsible. January 23, 2024 at 11:28PM

No, I’m aroace. You can see that in my user flair 😭 January 22, 2024 at 11:43PM

me [22m] first time dating, got this [19f] number from bumble a month ago and been on 2 dates so far. she didn’t even let me kiss her on the lips only cheeks , but asking to have sex? ”i said “come spend the night” and tried calling but her phones always goes straight to voicemail when i call.she said “when” i said “rn if u wanna fuck we can watch netflix n cuddle” then ghosted?? told her i don’t wanna pressure her if she doesn’t wanna have sex yet.i text her next day asking her fav sex positions (lol) she told me.is she like tryna lead me on or something because she’s super ghosty in general. she ghosts whenever i try flirt and bring up seeing her over text aswell since it’s been over a month since we couldn’t see eachother cause she went back home for Christmas.she did 1 time ask to meet up at a park tho so idk. she said she was nervous but i’m not buying it. last text was me telling her i wanna see her this week. i will not text her again,i just wanna know if i’m acting desperate,...

We hung out 3-4 times, and then I told her I liked her, and she said I am like a brother to her, and that she thinks there is no chemistry. The I told her I do not want to stay in touch, because we do not have enough in common to be just friends. Like a common interest, or any reason to hang out without being intimate. And I do not just mean sex, I mean having intimate conversations, sharing feelings, dreams, being partners in life. I am looking for different qualities in a friendship. I told her all of this, and she convinced me to stay in touch. Mainly because I do not have any friends, and I have to start somewhere... This has been months ago. We hung out once, met a few times talking a little, but mostly, we are writing text messages or talking on the phone. The rejection still hurts a little to be honest, I still like her in some ways, I still value our phone conversations in some ways. To be clear, I am not interested in dating her anymore, I did not try to stay friends hopi...

It’s not strange, especially in ace circles. Personally I would prefer either romantic without kissing or a deep, platonic partnership too. January 19, 2024 at 11:17PM