I think that's because allos go into a relationship because of sexual attraction. While asexuals don't have that extra noise, so our selection is more oriented towards long lasting stuff like personality, morals, etc November 22, 2023 at 11:32PM

I really like this reply. A lot of people feel a need to be physically and sexually desired and not having that can hurt. Either you two can figure out a way to compensate for that need not being filled or, as this commenter says, maybe you’re simply not compatible sexually. You could explore ethically non-monogamous relationships or understand that this is a barrier that maybe can’t be reconciled November 22, 2023 at 11:31PM

So I matched with this girl on a dating app, and we’ve been talking for a couple weeks now. We were gonna try and make plans to go out on a date but with thanksgiving this weekend that made it a challenge. All of a sudden she says and I quote “Soo...I am always honest to a fault so I need you to know that I do need to ask for a little space for a little bit. I am not ghosting you which is why I am telling you this. I just need some space. I hope you understand. I'm also asking for patience.”. What should I do? I wanna give her space cause I enjoy talking to her, and we’ve been talking every single day. Just looking for advice on what to do. Submitted November 22, 2023 at 12:13AM So I matched with this girl on a dating app, and we’ve been talking for a couple weeks now. We were gonna try and make plans to go out on a date but with thanksgiving this weekend that made it a challenge. All of a sudden she says and I quote “Soo...I am always honest to a fault so I need you to know...

I want to have a romantic attraction but I just can't find myself feeling like that I guess. November 20, 2023 at 10:54PM

For context I’m new to this dating world, I find it very hard talking to people face to face so I decided to try online dating. I recently started talking with this guy who wouldn’t talk that much on text, but when we’re on call he wouldn’t shut up. I asked him about it and he says it’s because he doesn’t talk that much in general he’s more of a “listener”. I understand that, but a friend of mine joked about maybe he’s hiding something and doesn’t want leaked chats. Am I overthinking? HELP! Submitted November 20, 2023 at 12:01AM For context I’m new to this dating world, I find it very hard talking to people face to face so I decided to try online dating. I recently started talking with this guy who wouldn’t talk that much on text, but when we’re on call he wouldn’t shut up. I asked him about it and he says it’s because he doesn’t talk that much in general he’s more of a “listener”. I understand that, but a friend of mine joked about maybe he’s hiding something and doesn’t want l...

Throwaway account. I started talking to this guy in September, went out with him on two dates. I made out with him on the second date and we decided to see where things would go. I have an issue with making out that I’ve struggled with for years, where I feel awful after I do it because I generally like to get physically intimate with someone only after I emotionally connect with them or am in a committed relationship with them. However, I have still ended up doing casual for quite a number of times against my better judgement. So after I started talking to him, I made out with another friend of mine whom I’ve been attracted to physically for a year now. It’s just physical attraction, but I felt awful afterwards as if I was cheating on this guy and I told him about it. He was understanding but also asked me what exactly we did (details), was it just kissing or more etc and I felt uncomfortable about it, and he has brought that up again and again. I told him we just kissed because I do...

Ummm, I’ll do my very best to keep it as short as possible but I apologize in advance if it’s long. (Sorry for mobile) I (F27) left an abusive relationship almost two years ago, and just recently my therapist said she thought it would be good for me to start dating again. I really struggle to identify if something is a red flag or I’m overthinking because of trauma. I started talking to this guy 30M we’ll call John. John and I really hit it off. Had a ton in common, held good conversations, really sweet. We moved from Tinder to messaging on Snapchat and it was going smoothly. I asked him after a few days if he wanted to plan to meet up and he said he wasn’t ready yet, he was kinda nervous and self conscious and wanted to wait a little longer. I completely understood. I’m usually really shy too. I reassured him and we kept just messaging and talking on the phone. He started to get clingy and really sappy and at first it was kind of nice. It was sweet. But it’s gotten to a point it’s...