I watched this video earlier which whilst isn't directly focused on aphobia, does go into some details on why/how aphobia can manifest. It's basically down to people linking sexuality as a uniquely human experience - so people who don't feel a sexual attraction may be viewed as robotic or alien. It basically others asexual people, as they don't participate in something that is seen as intrinsically human June 18, 2023 at 10:59PM

People usually ship the (presumably straight) male characters together because they aren’t putting actual gay non-PR relationships in it. Also if people are shipping m/m PR, then that means that there is a m/m PR relationship in it, which is what you want, right? June 17, 2023 at 11:14PM

LMFAO June 16, 2023 at 11:17PM

I am so sorry to hear that you feel broken. First of all, I think there is no "normal" amount of sex to want or need. That is always up to the individual couple to determine and to compromise. Secondly, does your partner know how you are feeling and what you are thinking about? Have they expressed to you that they are hurt? If so, what did they say what exactly hurts them? Thirdly, it is completely okay to not know what or who you are just yet. We have all been there and I am still at the point of questioning myself every once in a while. That is part of my life I would say. Just because your experiences dont align with "typical ace experiences" doesnt have to mean that you cannot be ace. Asexuality is a spectrum and there are so many different ace experiences. And saying that you dont like sex very often and find it boring or see it as a chore sometimes, is something that a lot of aces can relate to in one way or another. So even if in the end you find out that ...

asexuality as an umbrella term means "little to no sexual attraction". there's demi, grey, aego, caed (cad?), and all other ... subs ... of sexual attraction under that umbrella. asexual itself is the "no sexual attraction" part of that umbrella. but just to throw some more complications into it; attraction isn't the same as action! someone can be just asexual or any of the identities under the umbrella and still have sex. some folk may confuse this action for attraction, but bumping uglies doesn't un-ace someone anymore than not bumping uglies un-allos others. June 15, 2023 at 10:48PM

In short, asexuality is a spectrum, generally defined by "experiencing little to no sexual attraction". The "little" can vary greatly by person. And aces with no sexual attraction can still have sex. All of these things (attraction, libido, and the act of sex itself) can be completely separate, depending on the individual's experience. I suggest looking at the sidebar for a lot of helpful links, or just search for what others have said. These questions come up all the time. 😆 June 15, 2023 at 10:46PM

Ace! As in cool! June 14, 2023 at 11:09PM