The flag for hypermasculine military bigots is the American flag sadly October 13, 2022 at 01:15AM

So many dates and even friends keep hitting me with the 'oh something just came up I can't make it/I'm gonna be x hours late' too often and usually multiple times in a row, and sometimes season it with a little ghosting. Whenever I try confronting people like this, they often get very defensive and pin the blame on me. I do understand that shit actually happens, but I usually give them too many or too little chances, so I'm just wondering what you guys think is an appropriate number of chances to give a date/friend like this. Also to the women reading, is this something women just do to test men? One time I told a date I'm no longer interested in her and don't want to see her anymore after she kept cancelling dates for 3-4 weeks straight (without reason usually), then she surprisingly got very upset. Submitted October 13, 2022 at 01:10AM So many dates and even friends keep hitting me with the 'oh something just came up I can't make it/I'm...

Hello, I am 24M that goes on tons of dates, like yesterday I had two. So its not problem for me to get dates through OLD. But I get rarely second dates. The problems is that I just go to these dates for the sake of going, not really seeing if I really like the girls I go out. Well, I never know if I like them physically, I just go because its better than nothing. When the date comes I just feel that its forced, because I just go because its better not to go rather because I like them physically. I do have some problems being witty, I can hold conversations, I can 'make moves' but its very difficult because I rather dont feel confortable at dates. I know that I like girls, but I only have been atracted to 2 girls in my life. I just dont know what to do: I feel rejected, idiot, not fun, a loser because even if I try to carry the conversation, the girls just dont seem into me. Neither am I. Pls Help. Submitted October 13, 2022 at 12:15AM Hello,I am 24M that goes on tons of...

I didn't know about this sub and after reading your posh, it existence made me sad. For one, I'm one of those who they are excluding. I'm cupiosexual, but without using a microlabel I could be just sex favorable asexual. I struggle in this sub sometimes because I feel like many memes are more focus on the sex repulsed or sex indiferent side of things. To think that there is a sub like that... It's like when your friends make a group chat without you. And it's also sad because gatekeeping that way, they are making us all look bad and we are already in a rough position as it is already. October 12, 2022 at 11:23PM

Not surprised seeing as military culture tends to be hypermasculine and hypermasculinity has never been a friend of anything that has its own pride flag. Smooth sailing and Godspeed, friend. October 12, 2022 at 11:14PM

For this particular food metaphor, I’d say being asexual is like someone who doesn’t feel hunger or maybe just doesn’t crave food. They could still physically eat the food, but there’s no craving for it. Some might find it enjoyable to eat certain foods under certain circumstances even without that feeling of craving, the same way sex-favorable aces find sex enjoyable even without attraction. Some might find eating boring/neutral/a chore, the same as sex-indifferent aces. And some might feel nauseous and dislike even the idea of eating, the same as sex-repulsed aces who find the idea of sex actively distressing. But what makes them all asexual is that lack of craving. October 12, 2022 at 12:10AM

How'd you come to terms with it? Was it just matter of time? Time has definitely helped me to feel more ok wearing non-baggy things, but then as soon as people stare or make uncomfortable remarks, I'm like the meme of that cute pink blob getting punched back into the box it felt safe enough to come out of. October 12, 2022 at 12:09AM